Hi everyone. I just want to vent a little here about a situation that's been happening at work.
First let me say that I love my job and everything about it EXCEPT this man I have been placed next to. I have been at my job for a while, but about 5 weeks ago there was a seating change, and now I am sitting next to a man who is 30 (I'm 33).
This person that we will call "Steven" has been making inappropriate sexual comments nearly every day now, since about 3 days after the new seat change. He is homosexual and I have NOTHING against that as my uncle and one of my very dear friends are also homosexual, so that's not my problem. I am not a prude and I am a very down to earth person (not a goody goody) so I really don't feel I'm out of line.
In the last 5 weeks I have heard comments like, "Wow, that guys got a hot ass! I'd do him!" and "I have to go to the dentist today because my tongue ring did so much damage to my teeth. I thought about putting it back in b/c my boyfriend loves it" or "Wow, I'd love to bring him home and say to my boyfriend "look what the cat dragged in!" or discussions about the Debbie Loves Dallas brochure from a musical he went to, where the photo on the front was a half naked woman with pom-poms barely covering her you know what's....he was walking up and down the row of desks showing people the pamphlet and saying "it was just like porno but she pretends to get f----d."
I said something to him about 2 weeks ago (although maybe I wasn't firm enough and explicit enough) and now today I had it with him explaining that got "excited" when he got to practice massaging his instructor at massage school. So I told him I had had it, he is inappropriate and imature, that he may think he's funny but when he walks away people talk and he better watch it. He was an @$$ about it, so I went straight to the supervisor and reported what happened and that I finally said something to Steven about this.
I feel I did the right thing. I should have to listen to 4 or 5 comments like that every day of the work week. But for some reason I feel strange and kind of bad about it because I am not used to reporting people. I just kind of put up with things, but I just couldn't take it anymore!
First let me say that I love my job and everything about it EXCEPT this man I have been placed next to. I have been at my job for a while, but about 5 weeks ago there was a seating change, and now I am sitting next to a man who is 30 (I'm 33).
This person that we will call "Steven" has been making inappropriate sexual comments nearly every day now, since about 3 days after the new seat change. He is homosexual and I have NOTHING against that as my uncle and one of my very dear friends are also homosexual, so that's not my problem. I am not a prude and I am a very down to earth person (not a goody goody) so I really don't feel I'm out of line.
In the last 5 weeks I have heard comments like, "Wow, that guys got a hot ass! I'd do him!" and "I have to go to the dentist today because my tongue ring did so much damage to my teeth. I thought about putting it back in b/c my boyfriend loves it" or "Wow, I'd love to bring him home and say to my boyfriend "look what the cat dragged in!" or discussions about the Debbie Loves Dallas brochure from a musical he went to, where the photo on the front was a half naked woman with pom-poms barely covering her you know what's....he was walking up and down the row of desks showing people the pamphlet and saying "it was just like porno but she pretends to get f----d."
I said something to him about 2 weeks ago (although maybe I wasn't firm enough and explicit enough) and now today I had it with him explaining that got "excited" when he got to practice massaging his instructor at massage school. So I told him I had had it, he is inappropriate and imature, that he may think he's funny but when he walks away people talk and he better watch it. He was an @$$ about it, so I went straight to the supervisor and reported what happened and that I finally said something to Steven about this.
I feel I did the right thing. I should have to listen to 4 or 5 comments like that every day of the work week. But for some reason I feel strange and kind of bad about it because I am not used to reporting people. I just kind of put up with things, but I just couldn't take it anymore!