as my babies get older, it's getting easier to have a hand held bag... i have a 5.5 yr son, 4 yr daughter, and a 1.5 son... i used a cabas mezzo when they were smaller, but now, i'm starting to use my speedy 35, which i love, love, love, b/c it makes me feel "trendier"... you tend to forget about your fashion sense when your kids are infants.