So-SIL has 2 sons-they are presently 43 & 38 (SIL is much older than my hubby!). Here's a story she told us a few years ago-might give you some insight into her. It seems way back when my oldest nephew was about 5 (before younger nephew was even in the picture), he and SIL were in the apartment complex they used to live in. SIL had a horrible fear of dogs and as she tells it, a dog started chasing her and nephew-she said her and nephew ran through the apartment complex screaming-heading for their apartment. SIL says she was terrified-the dog was acting very vicious-etc. etc.. So, they are running and running and finally get to their apartment, SIL opens the door, runs in, slams the door behind her and thinks Phew! Just made it, when she hears a banging on the door and her son's little voice yelling "mommy, mommy, let me in!" Yep, she had left her little son outside the door. Now, when she told us this story-hubby and I were floored! She couldn't understand why-so, hubby said-"don't you think that story makes you look bad? I mean, if it were me and I was that afraid of a dog-I would have had my child in my arms, or, at least, running in front of me to make sure he was safe". She just shrugged and said "oh well-he survived" LOL I think I need my own "Crazy SIL stories and gifts" thread-I have a ton of them!