my sis doesnt want to share it... i feel so upset whenever i see that bag...
is it ok to take it back after giving it to her..
gosh
i feel bad
How old r you and your sis?
I'm kind of assuming that you're working but she's still schooling?
If the bag's already given to her officially, then let it go, no point asking for a gift back.
But if your reply to her so far had been along the lines of maybes and you'll think about it, then explain to her that you really like this bag, you can't given it to her, but you'll be willing to share it occasionally.
To smooth things over, perhaps can offer to pay half the cost of the next bag she's interested in.
She can save her school allowances, etc. and learn to appreciate the value of material items, and you'll still be a doting big sister by paying for half of it.
(of course, need to negotiate and agreed on a reasonably-priced bag that both of you can comfortably afford first... )
I think sometimes, it may be hard for an older sibling to be strict with a much younger sibling as perhaps the 'maternal' instinct is a little more prominent?
But maybe can "strenghten" yourself to be stricter by educating her that family menbers may be very tolerant of each others' 'bad habits', but outsiders will not be. Especially when she starts working whereby people may be more critical. In addition, if such a habit is continued in her later year, she may end up being very reliant on others for the rest of her life...??
haa... personally, I'm a younger sibling.
Seriously, if my bro / parents had been very tolerant / gave in to me all the time, I'm most likely to just take all the advantages I could.. Luckily (haha.. or unfortunately, depending on how one sees it), our age diff is not much, my parents believe in not spoiling one child more than the other, and my bro is perfectly at ease refusing me unless it is for seriously important stuff.
Good Luck! and keep telling yourself that sometimes, giving in all the time may do more harm to your sis in the long run than if you're a little stricter now.