I've been good friends with this girl for the last 9 or 10 years. We met in college, and since she is close to her older sis, I got to know her too, and I consider both my friends. I know their parents, too. When we first met, I'd get invitations twice a year from their family, one for each of their birthdays. Each would have a party at their house, thrown by their parents. They're the only ones I know who still had family birthday parties at ages 19-32 (the age of my friend's sister, who's 4 years older than me and my friend). Our families are from the Philippines, and though our culture encourages parties, this is still unusual among most Filipinos I know. OK, unusual, but since they're my friends, I always go. But within the last 3 years or so, I've been getting invitations every couple of months. My friend's boyfriend has grown close to the family, so they throw parties for his birthday, too. Then my friend's sister got engaged, pregnant, married, and bought a new house within a year, so the family had parties for all those occasions. And, of course, they had a party for her husband's birthday, and also the baby shower, a party celebrating the baby's birth, and they'll soon have a party for the baby's baptism. On top of having to buy gifts for all these occasions, the sis and BIL insist on receiving only money and gift cards as gifts. The reason they gave is that they just bought a new house, and all they need is furniture, and since furniture is expensive, they just ask for a little money from everyone to contribute to the furniture funds. I my friend and her family, but I feel obligated to bring gifts, and it's getting to be overwhelming. I haven't added up all the money, but I'm estimating I've spent more than $800 in gifts (counting money and gifts cards for the sis and BIL). And...the sis and BIL don't make an effort to show up to my birthday dinners (which are small get-togethers at restaurants, and no one gives me a gift, my friends just pool their money in paying my dinner).