I have had sellers email me after a few days to ask if the transaction was good for me and if there is anything else they can do to make it better. They inform me that they have left positive feedback for me and hope I would do the same.
I don't think it is bad etiquette. On the contrary, depending on how you word it, I think it is good customer service.
Sometimes, I forget to leave feedback. When they remind me, it doesn't mean I will post my feedback straight away. But at least it will be at the back of my mind that I have to do it. I have had feedbacks given after 5 weeks from end of auction.
I agree, it's what Ebay is all about, and feedback is the final part of the transaction, so to speak. I do ask if it's been a good 2-3 weeks, but i'm polite about it. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
In my "shipping notification", I say that I will be delighted to leave feedback once I know they are happy with their item and would appreciate them doing the same for me. After that, I never ask again.
Once I bent over backwards to get a bag to a buyer. When I followed up with her to see if she was happy with the bag and asked her to leave feedback, she got incensed with me and threatened me with a negative feedback. Told me I should be lucky I got NO feedback.
Few days ago, I emailed to 7 buyers to ask for feedbacks and only one returned my request so far. Yu, it irks me as well because they got nice feedbacks from me and I had none. From this point on, I would leave feedback if buyers do for me first!!! Pure and simple!
Nope, I NEVER ask for feedback. Back in the "old days" when ebay was much less regimented, one could get e-mail addys for anyone. One seller sent out an e-mail to about 150 people saying quite snottily "Hey it's been over a week since I sent your item, my feedback is overdue, please look after this ASAP". So a bunch of the people that he e-mailed sent e-mails to the list of people he'd e-mailed and arranged to give him negs and neutrals saying "here's the feedback you demanded, you jerk".
I figure if I don't hear from a buyer, oh well. Either they weren't thrilled but didn't think it was MY problem, had buyer's remorse but didn't think it was my problem, were happy and meant to do it, or whatever.
I also know that some people don't leave feedback because they don't want a "trail" of what they've bought, or who they've dealt with. (Collectors, especially in niche markets, can be cut-throat!)
I never ask buyers for feedback and I wouldnt want a seller to ask me for it either. I just had a buyer ask me for feedback which I might have left (hadnt decided) but now I am put off. He took forever to pay and I had waited almost 2 weeks and was about to file an NPB alert when he finally paid. So I wasnt thrilled with the transaction to begin with but now I think I will leave nothing.