...suddenly became incredibly competitive and catty?
Like, with some of your closest friends it has suddenly become impossible to answer the simple questions of who you're dating, where you're moving, your job, anything?
Maybe it's just an unstable time in our lives and we'll grow out of it. It's really sad, though, because two of my best friends (who aren't friends with each other so their nastiness is not rubbing off on one another) have suddenly grown so passive-aggressive with underhand slights. I mean, heck, if you're gonna insult me, be frank about it and let's not waste time!
I feel bad and I spent a long time thinking that maybe I'm gushing about how well things are going (but they're not really going all that well anyway!), and maybe they're jealous? But they have a lot of awesome things going on in their lives, they're really accomplished and amazing girls. I don't think it's jealousy. They just have started treating happiness and success like a very limited resource one has to fight for. Despite the fact that we're in different fields, we prefer to date different kinds of guys, these two girls just cannot let me get away with doing anything without subtly nasty comments.
Anyway, sorry to vent, guys. Maybe I should just reciprocate in kind or something. I'm really just kinda trying to hold onto these two girls as friends despite the fact that they're turning nasty because we've been friends since 2nd grade!
Thanks, maybe you ladies notice/noticed this in your 20's also.
Like, with some of your closest friends it has suddenly become impossible to answer the simple questions of who you're dating, where you're moving, your job, anything?
Maybe it's just an unstable time in our lives and we'll grow out of it. It's really sad, though, because two of my best friends (who aren't friends with each other so their nastiness is not rubbing off on one another) have suddenly grown so passive-aggressive with underhand slights. I mean, heck, if you're gonna insult me, be frank about it and let's not waste time!
I feel bad and I spent a long time thinking that maybe I'm gushing about how well things are going (but they're not really going all that well anyway!), and maybe they're jealous? But they have a lot of awesome things going on in their lives, they're really accomplished and amazing girls. I don't think it's jealousy. They just have started treating happiness and success like a very limited resource one has to fight for. Despite the fact that we're in different fields, we prefer to date different kinds of guys, these two girls just cannot let me get away with doing anything without subtly nasty comments.
Anyway, sorry to vent, guys. Maybe I should just reciprocate in kind or something. I'm really just kinda trying to hold onto these two girls as friends despite the fact that they're turning nasty because we've been friends since 2nd grade!
Thanks, maybe you ladies notice/noticed this in your 20's also.