I actually had a rather lengthy discussion about this with my husband before we got married. He's more old fashioned than I am... I wanted to keep my maiden name entirely and he wanted me to change it to his last name. (For perspective, we live in the Los Angeles area and there are many progressive women that don't change their names at all around this neck of the woods. Not an atypical thing.) He said he wanted both he and I and our future kids to be a "family unit" and I didn't think a last name mattered so much. If you're a family, you're a family.
So here's what we came up with: I change my name socially while keeping my maiden name for work purposes. I go by Mrs. [his last name] except at work and he has to wear his wedding ring. (He doesn't particularly like the way it feels and said he didn't want to wear it, although I think he's more used to it now.)
The work thing is good, because all of my degrees are in my maiden name and I changed my last name on social media, so it's harder for clients to find me socially on the internet. (In my line of work, we don't socialize with clients outside of the work time... would be unethical.) Also, I help my husband with his company and I find it easier to deal with his employees when they don't know I'm married to the boss. The ones that know treat me differently...
In the end we compromised.
And actually, I haven't legally changed my name yet. The process is long, I'm lazy, and I really really don't want to spend the ridiculous amount of time on the process of changing all of my IDs, passport, social security card, and literally everything else in my life. I suppose I should do that soon-ish though. [emoji52]