Ladies and Gentlemen, you can be totally honest with me on this. This is part of the reasons I've been stressed lately. I felt like I had been a crappy friend to one of my long-time friend. Here's the story ...
I've been friends with this girl for over 6 years now. We shared a common interest and we could talk about everything. After we graduated, we lived in different states but we still kept in touch. Two years ago, she got her first boyfriend and so, we had yet another topic to talk about.
Well we typically talked once a week. She always picked up the phone and if she didn't, she always called back. Last week, I called her and she didn't call me back until almost a week later. She said she hadn't called me back because she had been spending the night at a male coworker's place. By that she didn't mean just spending the night as in hanging out, she meant she slept with him.
She said she had been feeling a bit neglected because whenever she wanted to drive to visit her bf, he always told her not to come because he had OT. In the meantime she started hanging out with this guy at work and it just happened.
Now she asked me what she should do because she said she felt guilty. I am totally against cheating because I wouldn't want the same to happen to me so I basically told her that I felt that being honest is the best way to go. HOWEVER, I also told her that she needed to keep in mind that if she told her bf what happened, she needs to be ready to take responsibility for the repercussion.
I don't know if she had told her boyfriend yet, but now I feel like a crappy friend because I wasnt' sure if I had given her the right advice. I mean, if I were the bf, I would NOT take that news very well. Heck, I'd probably dump my gf if she cheats on me ... Did I tell my friend the right thing or did I possibly just cost her her relationship?
I know I shouldn't even be giving her any advice considering I am not the person to ask. But at the time the first thing that came to my mind when she told me this was to be honest because I believe in open communication. Now I feel stupid because this is a serious incident that had happened and I probably should have shut up about it since I obviously don't know crap ... Ugh ...
I've been friends with this girl for over 6 years now. We shared a common interest and we could talk about everything. After we graduated, we lived in different states but we still kept in touch. Two years ago, she got her first boyfriend and so, we had yet another topic to talk about.
Well we typically talked once a week. She always picked up the phone and if she didn't, she always called back. Last week, I called her and she didn't call me back until almost a week later. She said she hadn't called me back because she had been spending the night at a male coworker's place. By that she didn't mean just spending the night as in hanging out, she meant she slept with him.
She said she had been feeling a bit neglected because whenever she wanted to drive to visit her bf, he always told her not to come because he had OT. In the meantime she started hanging out with this guy at work and it just happened.
Now she asked me what she should do because she said she felt guilty. I am totally against cheating because I wouldn't want the same to happen to me so I basically told her that I felt that being honest is the best way to go. HOWEVER, I also told her that she needed to keep in mind that if she told her bf what happened, she needs to be ready to take responsibility for the repercussion.
I don't know if she had told her boyfriend yet, but now I feel like a crappy friend because I wasnt' sure if I had given her the right advice. I mean, if I were the bf, I would NOT take that news very well. Heck, I'd probably dump my gf if she cheats on me ... Did I tell my friend the right thing or did I possibly just cost her her relationship?
I know I shouldn't even be giving her any advice considering I am not the person to ask. But at the time the first thing that came to my mind when she told me this was to be honest because I believe in open communication. Now I feel stupid because this is a serious incident that had happened and I probably should have shut up about it since I obviously don't know crap ... Ugh ...