yesterday, I had a long conversation with my husband's cousin. He was suppose to get engaged at the end of June to his g/f who's 4 months pregnant with his baby boy However, he told me things are not going too great at the moment. His mum was involved in a bad car accident two years ago, and she suffers some brain damage so she's not able to talk and needs someone to be there 24/7. So his sister is looking after the mum at home. Now, since he's the bread-earner and the only son in the family (his dad died a long time ago), his wife will have to live with his whole family without a question, and the place they currently lives has only two bedrooms and is probably kinda of messy. His g/f told him that they should look for a bigger place because the baby is coming at the end of the year, and she said she doesn't want to move in just now or after engagement with his family , because its too crowded. Now that is the problem, all of my husband's relatives (who all happens to live next door to them ) are very angry at his g/f for saying that, they think she should move in ASAP after the engagement party. They think she's just making excuses for not wanting to live with the mother in-law in the future. So cousin's g/f knew everyone is angry at her and she has become quite defensive as well, which means now all the relatives tell my husband's cousin that they will not attend the engagement party or the wedding if he still wants to marry this girl Now....to me i think its just ridiculous....i mean, the girl already said she's ok living with his whole family after they find a bigger place, i can understand why she doesn't want to move into their current place, furthermore since she knew everyone doesn't like her, why would she want to move into a place where she has to deal with those ppl every day ? So i told him to do whatever he thinks is the best, and i reminded him that his g/f is carrying his baby and its already very generous of her to say that she's ok living with his whole family. However, i only found out how angry my husband's relatives are about this matte, and just wondered if i should've kept my mouth shut and not given him any advice at allush: i am sure everyone will bite my head off if they found out i told him that his first priority should be his wife and his unborn baby. I don't know if i am wrong by saying that, in Asia you are considered bad if you don't put your parents first what do you all think about my advice ? should I just kept my mouth shut ?