Dealing with complete mess. Need good thoughts,vibes,prayers etc
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Ladies, thanks for your lovely supportive posts and messages. it makes be feel less alone because right now i'm just dealing with all this alone. feel like the lone struggling soldier. so frustrated with the party i'm dealing with and so unconvicted about what i'm about to do.
thought iwas done w the crying but feeling all teary and unstable and emotional agn. feeling lke there's so much lose ends to tie up and things to take care of and theres not enough time.
it's the weekend now, and i haven't heard from the guy. i sent him a detailed medical condition report 15 hours ago. i'm somewhat left hanging right now.
This guy and the attitude of some other ppl i've been dealing with are all the same (we need you to start now, we told you so and give you enough time. why did you fall sick now?) they are giving me the impression that they are asses. the longer this goes on, the more tired and frustrated i'm getting and the more tempted i am to say "F*** them, I'll choose another path".
the last 3 days which i could have used to prepare and really do some thinking of the situation has instead been spent on collecting doctor letters, chasing docs and nurses etc etc. and there's still so much logistics to take care of that will take much longer than the time i'm being given. i'm overwhelmed and i don't know how this is going to come together.
Lara and Travelbug, I know what u gals are saying and i don't know why they are acting this way. the guy has been acting as if he has the right to all this information he's asking for just because he doesn't believe me and the onus is on me to prove that i'm right and not lying.
thanks for the hugs all of you have been sending and thanks for hearing me out.
I really feel like i'm doing all i can and don't know what else to do with this guy.
keep u gals updated.
Rothjess, the waterworks show is starting anytime soon, i'll have to think about sending it your way. brown is no good. =P
thought iwas done w the crying but feeling all teary and unstable and emotional agn. feeling lke there's so much lose ends to tie up and things to take care of and theres not enough time.
it's the weekend now, and i haven't heard from the guy. i sent him a detailed medical condition report 15 hours ago. i'm somewhat left hanging right now.
This guy and the attitude of some other ppl i've been dealing with are all the same (we need you to start now, we told you so and give you enough time. why did you fall sick now?) they are giving me the impression that they are asses. the longer this goes on, the more tired and frustrated i'm getting and the more tempted i am to say "F*** them, I'll choose another path".
the last 3 days which i could have used to prepare and really do some thinking of the situation has instead been spent on collecting doctor letters, chasing docs and nurses etc etc. and there's still so much logistics to take care of that will take much longer than the time i'm being given. i'm overwhelmed and i don't know how this is going to come together.
Lara and Travelbug, I know what u gals are saying and i don't know why they are acting this way. the guy has been acting as if he has the right to all this information he's asking for just because he doesn't believe me and the onus is on me to prove that i'm right and not lying.
thanks for the hugs all of you have been sending and thanks for hearing me out.
I really feel like i'm doing all i can and don't know what else to do with this guy.
keep u gals updated.
Rothjess, the waterworks show is starting anytime soon, i'll have to think about sending it your way. brown is no good. =P
Oh boy Bubbles,
I'm so sorry that you're going through all of this. I'm thinking about you and hoping that everything works out in your favor.
As to what these people are expecting of you. They do not have a right to your personal medical information. If you happened to fall sick around the time that you were supposed to start, then a sufficient note provided by your Primary Care Provider would suffice. They have no right to call your doctor and ask for information. I don't think that giving these people your private medical details would be a good thing, because they could use it against you later on if you have been sick before or have a chronic illness. It's really none of their business.
I would report whoever is harassing you to the HR department. What they're doing is unethical and not a good business practice.
I'm so sorry that you're going through all of this. I'm thinking about you and hoping that everything works out in your favor.
As to what these people are expecting of you. They do not have a right to your personal medical information. If you happened to fall sick around the time that you were supposed to start, then a sufficient note provided by your Primary Care Provider would suffice. They have no right to call your doctor and ask for information. I don't think that giving these people your private medical details would be a good thing, because they could use it against you later on if you have been sick before or have a chronic illness. It's really none of their business.
I would report whoever is harassing you to the HR department. What they're doing is unethical and not a good business practice.
^ hey Lami, thanks for keeping me in your thoughts.
i gave them a general letter from my specialist and this guy was dissatisfied with it. said it was so coincidental that i was sick just at this time. !??!
i'm in catch 22. if i refuse to give them more details, they will assume they are correct and that i'm lying. yet giving them this additional info, which is actually none of their business, is invading my privacy. hopefully thats the onlly harm it does and they will not use it against me.
this is a mess and ridiculous..... that's all i can say bcos i have hardly eny energy left... =P
i gave them a general letter from my specialist and this guy was dissatisfied with it. said it was so coincidental that i was sick just at this time. !??!
i'm in catch 22. if i refuse to give them more details, they will assume they are correct and that i'm lying. yet giving them this additional info, which is actually none of their business, is invading my privacy. hopefully thats the onlly harm it does and they will not use it against me.
this is a mess and ridiculous..... that's all i can say bcos i have hardly eny energy left... =P
Bubbles - sorry to hear that you are ill, and that you are having to deal with such an a**hole on top of everything else. You might want to start looking for a lawyer (I know, I know - one more damn thing to do!), but if this guy steps out of line you might have a legal case against him. Hugs!
WOW Bubbles......you are way overdue for some good luck!!! Remember to stay strong and everything will work out. I hope this person feels stupid after they find out that you are indeed very ill and have not been lying!! But on the flip side, how awful for you because you are being accused. Thank goodness you have a wonderful doctor!!! In the end, it will all be okay, and you will be stronger for it!!
Anne
Anne
BubblesI tried to PM you but you're full.
I'll just go ahead and post what I pm'd you, but I hope no one is offended.
I'm so sorry you're dealing with all this. I do believe in God. I'll pray for you that you can feel peace beyond your understanding right now, emotionally, physically and mentally. That you'll feel wisdom and guidance on what decision to make and feel peace about that as well. I'll pray that you get all this mess sorted out and resolved. I'll pray right now and continue to do so. I also believe that God's timing is not our own, and that His timing is perfect, but doesn't always feel like what is best for us.
Hang in there girl. You know you can PM me if you need anything at all.
Michele
I'll just go ahead and post what I pm'd you, but I hope no one is offended.
I'm so sorry you're dealing with all this. I do believe in God. I'll pray for you that you can feel peace beyond your understanding right now, emotionally, physically and mentally. That you'll feel wisdom and guidance on what decision to make and feel peace about that as well. I'll pray that you get all this mess sorted out and resolved. I'll pray right now and continue to do so. I also believe that God's timing is not our own, and that His timing is perfect, but doesn't always feel like what is best for us.
Hang in there girl. You know you can PM me if you need anything at all.
Michele
Oh Bubbles, your story is breaking my heart. Hang in there and know that we are here for you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I wish you the best in everything you're dealing with right now and that it will take a turn for the better very soon. ~Big Hugs~
