My father lives with me a few months of the year. For some reason he is always on my case. I really feel sick and I think it is getting to me more that I thought. Since I work from home he feels I need to do anything he wants to do NOW.....and seems to get angry if I tell him to wait. He barks orders at me from the moment I get up, from things like "get the paper for me", not please or thank you. Something is always wrong with the food, the tea is too cold, the spoon is the wrong size. My kids are picking up on the way he talks to me and can not understand it. Yesterday I said good morning to him and he did not answer me. My daughter said Mommy said good morning to you and he did not reply. He seems to always make these nasty comments to me and critisize me but for some strange reason I feel like it is better to not reply because then he will get worse. My daughter has been sick with stomach problems for months and we are going to specialists and getting her to eat is a problem because her stomach always hurts, then in school they did this food program and she now looks at calories on everything, so she is like " I can't drink apple juice because it has 100 calories". So when she finally does eat and she is a healthy eater--lots of fruit, he will make a comment on how can she eat two apples that she is not skinny and has meat on her bones. She is on the thin side and the last thing I need is the start of a eating disorder because he is going to make her think she is fat. He despises fat people. My daugher is hard to fit because she is tall and thin and everything on her waist is too big except elastic waist clothing so I am angry he is starting with her because she is too smart and takes it all in. I tell him to leave the kids alone and she literally does not want anything to do with him. The one thing that does me in is verbal abuse. I am pretty good at saying stuff to other people except some family members.....he is one of them. What makes me mad is that I go out of my way to make his stay comfortable, I make him special foods, can't tell you how many times I take him out to eat (his favorite thing to do) and he talks to me like crap. He keeps preaching to me how my sister is God, and how wonderful she is, right she works till 9-10 pm and he has to reheat all his meals which are take out or frozen because she does not cook and she usually goes away on weekends and leaves him home alone. I know he would never say anything to her because she is so perfect and works so hard. I try to respect my Dad but as the weeks go by I feel like I am sinking. I really don't know what to do. My husband is shocked at how bad he treats me but he doesn't treat my husband that great and my husband tells him to mind his own business and he avoids him as much as he can. I have taken to going back to my room all morning (which is OK since my office is in there). Let's also say I have a new hobby, I have perfected the art of ironing clothes since he has been here. I have more scented linen waters and spray starch and the closets are now all organized with everything ironed...haha. Dad treats my brother bad too but he would never do this to my SIL so it is frustrating and doing me in.... Any help or suggestions, I do not do well with conflict.