This topic has come up quite a lot in booju mooju and I thought it might be interesting to get a discussion on this topic going. This is the post that really got me wondering about this a few months ago, for the linkofphobic I'll post the text too. Link: booju_mooju: Last Thread Starter For The Month, I PROMISE! Text: I was home in the middle of the day, yesturday, watching the tube, when I heard a little girl's laughter outside my window. I seemed to go on for a long time (at least 20 minutes), so I decided to investigate. When I peeked out my window, I saw a little girl, about 7 or 8 sitting in the lap of her father, on the stoop between the two row houses, one of which is the one I reside in. He was tickling her... Now, usually this would be cute to me, but something about this just rang a bit strange, to say the least... She sat in his lap, right between his legs, while he held her tickling her. She, of course, squirmed around there while he held her, tickling her. Now, during the whole episode, he seemed to be looking around as if making sure no one was watching him. Eventually he stopped and got up, but the girl reached around to tickle him in the crotch. He was still looking around, during this. He batted her hands away, weakly but eventually told her "OK" as in "We're done". They walked away together, hand in hand. Now, I don't want to jump the gun and just assume this guy was molesting his daughter, but I tell you, you know that little tingly "something ain't right" feeling you get in the back of your neck? I got that, watching them. I was pretty close to calling the police, but then I asked what would I say? And what if it was innocent? So I did nothing... But it still bothers me. What would you do? ------------------------------------- Why is it always that the worst is always assumed when you see a daughter with her father? Especially when the daughter is sitting on her daddy's lap. I talked to a friend of mine about this who has a young daughter and he said that he has been spoken to by strangers before about the way that he "handles" himself in public when he's with her. Apparently he was holding his little girl's hand while walking in the mall and when they went to the food court to eat, she wanted to sit in his lap (the girl was around 3 btw). One of the ladies in the food court had seen them walking hand in hand and when the little girl sat in his lap, the lady came over and said that it was "inappropriate" and that she hopes he's not abusing his little girl. Needless to say, he was outraged! So was I when I heard the story...it makes me mad just thinking about it now. I know that sexual abuse is very serious and I know first hand how it can screw up someone's life, but why is it that the worst is always assumed when a father is close to his daughter and they have a good relationship?