One of my dear friends is having a very difficult time and we don't know what to make of it? Her daughter met a "family" and became very friendly with them and "they" moved her and her 2 teenage children half way across the country. It is just too strange and my friend fears for her grandchildren's safety. Her daughter is not married, no father is involved. The twins are in high school-one boy, one girl. Her daughter moved in with these people with her kids. There is another woman and her teenage daughter there too. So it is this married couple, their 4 kids and two other women and their children. They are 7th Day Adventists, her daughter became a vegetarian and made her children do it too. Her children have no friends, no TV or any electronic devices allowed in their room. All their phone calls to my friend (their grandmother) are monitered meaning usually listened in to by some adult in the house. The grandkids say their mother is never alone and watched by one of the adults in the house, she has changed. I think they even control her money-which means they get all her money. Her kids do not get anything. They don't even get lunch money for school because "they might buy meat". The kids have to dress a appropriate way and go to church all day on Saturday. No holidays are celebrated-including birthdays. Any mail they get is open and read or thrown out before they get it. Computer emails are not allowed to old friends. Her daughter keeps referring to these people as "her family" to my friend, she is pretty rude to her mother and I think my friend is one step away from a nervous breakdown. The kids get driven to and picked up from school, they can't even ride the school bus. My friend feels both kids are very depressed. She fears for them getting out of line--because it seems like they have a strict set of rules and conduct they must follow. So if anyone can offer any advice on what you might think is going on here, what my friend can do to help her grandchildren. She wants to visit them once school gets out, so she can check with her own eyes what is going on but now it seems like her daughter does not want her to come. Her daughter will not send the kids on vacation--that would mean they are out of her sight. It is just so strange. This is my 3rd friend who has had a child move far away in the past year--they are trying to help each other but this one move is just so not normal to us. It seems like there is cult like things going on and my friend thinks she is probably getting half of what is really happening. Any help?