Convince my mom to wear her LV

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MmeM124

MmeM124

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Hi all! I’m looking for anything out there that can help my mom chill about wearing her Louis.

here is the bag:https://www.fashionphile.com/louis-vuitton-ostrich-lizard-majestueux-shoulder-bag-vert-210874

She bought it new when it first came out and only wore it then, in Hawaii and then once in Vegas. I presume where she knew she wouldn’t see anyone she knows. My husband and I mostly got her over the psychological stuff, like, I don’t want ppl to judge me about it, I don’t want ppl to think I’m showing off, etc. We were able to even get her to switch her stuff into it. We were so close!! Then she said, oh but what if I scratch the metal or the leather. So, my question is, what products would you suggest to help her feel like it’s protected?

It’s literally been taken out of her closet five times in eight years. She’s in her 60s. I’m not going to force her or anything but are so close to having her use it. TIA
 
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My mom is the same with the LV I bought her for her 50th birthday. She has used it twice then put it back on the box where it's lived for the last 10 years. She says it's too heavy now and wont use it (she picked it out!). Just sigh and go on and least she knows she has if she wants to use it.
 
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Okay, so first of all, that bag is gorgeous! I'm not even an LV girl. It's almost a crime to keep it hidden in the closet! :biggrin:

Try talking to your mom about how it's no good to expect people to judge you for owning expensive things. That's thinking bad about people by default. Yes, she probably shouldn't wear anything expensive when she's... I don't know, volunteering somewhere for the less fortunate people, but in normal day-to-day life, why the hell not? I suppose there would be some people who'd think worse of her if she wears luxury items, but by doing that, they would only prove that they themselves are shallow, envious, and judgy. Your mom isn't hurting anyone by owning nice things.

Life is short. Why not enjoy it?

As far as know, LV doesn't recommend putting anything on their leather to protect it. Just don't wear it in the rain or on the beach, or somewhere where it can easily be splattered with dirt, grease, etc.
 
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Sounds like all your moms are so humble and sweet
Usually what i do is take my mom to the store and let her pick out any purse she wants but only under a few conditions.

1) “A purse you are not afraid to get some nicks and scratches.”
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2)”A purse you could wear everyday and wont be too heavy to carry.”

As for the part where moms are too afraid to be seen as “too showy”, just let them know that you worked hard so that she can be able to use the bag and not just be hidden away, to do it for you as a message of “i worked hard for this.” With a deeper/personal message of “my daughter/son worked hard for this.”
 
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After years of my own mother also never wanting to use the LV bags or any bags I bought for her, it took a tragedy for my mother to finally learn to ‘enjoy what you have today’.

Her cousin’s house burned down with all their earthly belongings. Thankfully everyone was safe and unhurt.

Her cousin had very beautiful crystalware, jewelry and other expensive items that she never used or wore because she felt it was ‘too special for everyday’.

Her cousin now regrets she never enjoyed anything while these items were in her possession and now everything is gone.

She told my mother to use all her lovely things everyday and to treat every day as a ‘special occasion’ day because you just never know.

My mother and I have taken this lesson to heart and we regard every day as a ‘special occasion’ day. :flowers::heart:
 
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It‘s a gorgeous bag! The metal closure looks same like from Pochette Metis and there are hardware protectors from Havre de Lux available and they are really great. Are you able to compare or find out the size if it‘s the same?
 
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I’d let it go. She is capable of doing what she wants. I do like the suggestion of buying her a bag she really likes and wants to wear. We have zero control over another person’s behavior and I don’t see the value in trying to force something she clearly doesn’t want to do.
 
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Do you think she would be relieved to sell it and get something less conspicuous? Or is she ok to save it for really special occasions or for taking out of the bag and admiring at home? If it’s no big deal for her to just have it to covet, then maybe she is Ok just knowing there’s something special waiting in the closet for when the mood strikes.

I was that way with my first LV - a monogramouflage Jasmine. I was terrified it would get damaged and that people would judge me so I never carried it. It was a huge splurge financially at the time. It haunted me from the closet :P

So I sold it :facepalm: and got something else that I wouldn’t worry about. At the time I was so relieved to let it go, like a weight was lifted off my shoulders.

Now I just carry my nice things. My older and wiser self knows I work very hard and deserve it. I wish I still had that Jasmine!
 
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Thanks everyone! I agree with all of you...she bought it for herself, and I know she will do what she wants but I also think she could regret it later. I will ask her what she thinks about the hardware protector or getting something more subtle.
 
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