lol aww thanks everyone! I am sure this isn't the end of the fight to follow, but he's not getting away with it this time
Sweetie *Hug* It suck you have to go through this...:cry: just to let you know that you are not alone. You still have your family, friends, and US!It's not your insecurity that hurt the relationship it's HIM. He is the one not giving you the security you need, it's not your fault.The people who often blame other during a disagreemnet are the ones who can't take responsiblity of the negatives.sayhitoromes said:A mini update - I confronted him and told him the advice that you guys gave me. I said that I know he went to the party that night, I saw the pictures, that I am sick of the lies. He said "i didn't lie, I did go to the precinct with my friend who got robbed, but i also went to the party. I didnt lie just left things out". I was like "whether you leave things out, or lie - IT IS DISHONESTY!!!" I mean, I just came home after a week of being out of town - he should be with me, esp since I was waiting up for him thinkin hes coming back soon (he left my house at midnight, and i waited up until like 3 am).
He even had the girl who's party it was, call me and tell me that my bf didnt stay at the party long:evil:. I told her straight up "i don't know why yr calling me, I don't have an issue with you. I have an issue with him. whether he was there 4 hours or 20 minutes, he should have let me know if I am home waiting up for him".
Long story short - I basically repeated a lot of what I read here. I told him that I deserved 100% honesty and better than what he was giving me. He accused me of snooping and even said that MY INSECURTY IS THE PROBLEM!!, and I told him that is the only way I find out the truth. I also told him this is HIS problem, don't turn it on me.
In the end, he said he was sorry fand that in the future he won't keep anything from me. I told him that if this was the first time that I caught him in a lie, fine - but its not. How many 3rd/4th chances do I give until I start looking like a real fool. I told him that I am unsure where this relationship can go since I no longer have any trust in him. And that is where we are up to now - havent spoken since then.
Thank you everyone for your support - it has made me much stronger in holding my ground through all this!
sayhitoromes said:A mini update - I confronted him and told him the advice that you guys gave me. I said that I know he went to the party that night, I saw the pictures, that I am sick of the lies. He said "i didn't lie, I did go to the precinct with my friend who got robbed, but i also went to the party. I didnt lie just left things out". I was like "whether you leave things out, or lie - IT IS DISHONESTY!!!" I mean, I just came home after a week of being out of town - he should be with me, esp since I was waiting up for him thinkin hes coming back soon (he left my house at midnight, and i waited up until like 3 am).
He even had the girl who's party it was, call me and tell me that my bf didnt stay at the party long:evil:. I told her straight up "i don't know why yr calling me, I don't have an issue with you. I have an issue with him. whether he was there 4 hours or 20 minutes, he should have let me know if I am home waiting up for him".
Long story short - I basically repeated a lot of what I read here. I told him that I deserved 100% honesty and better than what he was giving me. He accused me of snooping and even said that MY INSECURTY IS THE PROBLEM!!, and I told him that is the only way I find out the truth. I also told him this is HIS problem, don't turn it on me.
In the end, he said he was sorry fand that in the future he won't keep anything from me. I told him that if this was the first time that I caught him in a lie, fine - but its not. How many 3rd/4th chances do I give until I start looking like a real fool. I told him that I am unsure where this relationship can go since I no longer have any trust in him. And that is where we are up to now - havent spoken since then.
Thank you everyone for your support - it has made me much stronger in holding my ground through all this!
SuzyZ said:I'm a little late to this thread but I've been through this kind of crap, DO NOT BE A VICTIM! Get some therapy if you need help extricating yourself from this relationship - It is NOT easy but you will feel good about yourself for being strong and your Ilife will reflect that.