Celebrating Kicking Cancer in the Face With Some Retail Therapy!! (Reveal)

Camaro Chic

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My mother had surgery this week for her breast cancer after the doctor made a negligent treatment plan recommendation and I called him to the carpet for it, which was necessary to keep my dad from going mad and decking the oncologist for ignoring us and treating mum like a number in the worst way. I could see it going downhill fast. What a mess.

He was recommending chemotherapy when she is early stage and has an extremely weak immune system already. She gets sick every year at least 5 times and once always heads into pneumonic territory which is notorious for killing chemotherapy patients. He never gave her other options or asked her what she wanted to do, just scheduled the port be put in and ignored her fear and the concerns we voiced. She's not ever been good at standing up to authority figures like doctors and asked us to be there with her for her last appointment before treatment began. Dad and I helped her research and the day of the port placement she was trying to get the nerve up to take charge and to tell him she wanted to hear her other options and wasn't doing Chemotherapy.

When he blew off my dad and my questions and worries about her weak immune system and the side effects of chemo that would destroy her physically ans mentally, given her preexisting conditions and her frailty, I saw dad almost go nuclear on the twit-- so I stepped in and quickly asked the oncologist what the survival percentage difference between her stage doing chemo vs surgery and radiation. He didn't know her stage or the numbers whatsoever. He was recommending a plan with no basis for his recommendation whatsoever and after weeks of biopsies and a difficult diagnosis he did not pay any attention to her indivisually whatsoever. When he didn't have the answers, i jumped his case and mentioned Negligent recommendations, as I'm very familiar with medical malpractice, having worked with them for years. He was silent while I embarrassed him save to answer he didn't know but would find out. I demanded immediate answers.

So when I made him look it up in MD Anderson Statistics and run the algorithms to determine her stage and survival percentages, the evidence for negligence became so concrete he panicked. We watched as he ran the algorithms over and over. This oncologist kept saying these numbers can't be right. This isn't right.

I asked him if the numbers matched mine, and after some time he admitted they did, not realizing dad and I were reading the computer screen from behind him as he sat with his back to us.

Her stage/grade has a 90% 10 year survival rate with chemotherapy and 89% survival without. He refused to give other options and pushed a treatment with only 1% difference in survival and it could easily kill her in the process. He mumbled that if this was accurate then no he wouldn't recommend chemotherapy.

Then she spoke up and told him she wanted her other options he offered the surgery and radiation, she said that's what she wanted. He was out the door as fast as possible saying he would see her in six weeks. I was afraid dad would go after him. I've never seen that look of murderous rage from him before.

Anyway on to the good part. I stumbled upon a certain lifetime achievement holy grail piece, two identical ones for less than the retail of my City Steamer. When showed them to her she lit on them like a duck on a June bug! Mum told me she wanted one and I "deserved" one... and my dad agreed we needed them to celebrate beating the doctors, having her family advocating for her treatment as not just another number and payout for those buzzard MDs, and getting the surgery done (this week) and most importantly celebrate once she got "that cancer OUT of her!"

She added rightly that retail therapy and a post surgery treat were excellent medicine! [emoji41][emoji23][emoji38] so with that said and my apologies for the length...

Let the reveal begin!! If I still remember how to do a strip tease. I haven't done this in years!

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luvprada

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How is your mom doing? I'm very impressed with how you handled the doc. You are amazing!

I just hit the 5 year clear mark from breast cancer. I had stage 2 cancer. I went to 3 different sets of doctors before I made a decision.

First doc said surgery, chemo, radiation. The oncologist said definitely chemo showed me my X-ray and said cancer was all thru my breast. Then I get a call that my surgery is scheduled. I had not decided to go with this doc. So I had them cancel the surgery and went to get opinion 2 which was already scheduled.

Opinion 2 said chemo first to shrink tumor. I made an appointment to put a port in. In the meantime I had an appointment with a 3rd set of doctors.

Opinion 3- The surgeon said the tumor would not shrink with chemo. The cancer was localized to one area not spread all over. They understood I was terrified of chemo. After we got done talking i decided to go with them. I chose not to take my DH to the appointments. I needed to do this myself as it was easier to focus on the issue and not his fear at the appointments. (He's wonderful but was so upset it would have been more upsetting with him there).

Wound up with a mastectomy and reconstruction. No chemo, no radiation.

I feel lucky I chose that group of doctors. Having 3 sets of doctors giving 3 different opinions was amazing not in a good way.

What you did for your mom was wonderful! Enjoy your LV, you deserve it
 
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bakeacookie

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Use them!

Hope your mom has a speedy recovery.

It's a dang shame there's doctors who don't listen to their patients.
 

bakeacookie

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Use them, enjoy them!

How is your mom doing? I'm very impressed with how you handled the doc. You are amazing!

I just hit the 5 year clear mark from breast cancer. I had stage 2 cancer. I went to 3 different sets of doctors before I made a decision.

First doc said surgery, chemo, radiation. The oncologist said definitely chemo showed me my X-ray and said cancer was all thru my breast. Then I get a call that my surgery is scheduled. I had not decided to go with this doc. So I had them cancel the surgery and went to get opinion 2 which was already scheduled.

Opinion 2 said chemo first to shrink tumor. I made an appointment to put a port in. In the meantime I had an appointment with a 3rd set of doctors.

Opinion 3- The surgeon said the tumor would not shrink with chemo. The cancer was localized to one area not spread all over. They understood I was terrified of chemo. After we got done talking i decided to go with them. I chose not to take my DH to the appointments. I needed to do this myself as it was easier to focus on the issue and not his fear at the appointments. (He's wonderful but was so upset it would have been more upsetting with him there).

Wound up with a mastectomy and reconstruction. No chemo, no radiation.

I feel lucky I chose that group of doctors. Having 3 sets of doctors giving 3 different opinions was amazing not in a good way.

What you did for your mom was wonderful! Enjoy your LV, you deserve it
Congratulations on your 5 years!

Good idea to have multiple consultations.
 
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handbagjunkie00

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Good for you to stand up for your Mom and question the course of treatment. I am a fellow survivor and have gotten quite good at asking the right questions so that options aren't pushed down my throat without justification. Beautiful pieces! :hugs:
 
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staceyjan

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Wow! You are amazing! You are lucky to have each other. I have followed your posts and remember the one from last year when you shared your emotions when your mom bought you that cape. I am sure you gave her the same feeling now! Thank you for sharing this touching story.
 

Freckles1

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Use them!! What a fantastic family you all are!!! Congrats for your mom and you! And you dad too!! [emoji8]
 

Nerja

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So happy to hear your news. Good for you to stand up to the doc and get your mom the right treatment for her! Enjoy your lovely Boîte Flacons! You and you mom have earned them!
 

leechiyong

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Beautiful pieces! May your mom have a swift recovery! I'm so sorry there had to be the additional stress on top of what your family is already going through.

I also want to say thank you for sharing. I pray no one else ever goes through what that doctor did to your family, but I found it incredibly informative on how to handle that type of situation.