OK, so I'm lusting over the Mahalas, but when I see them over someone's shoulder, they just look so huge! I'm kind of a small purse gal anyway, so I'm wondering if the Maddy might be a better choice. But, if I understand correctly, the handles on the Maddy might not be long enough to wear it on the shoulder...is this right? I already have a Lulu Guinness bag whose handle is too short for me to wear over my shoulder, and I get tired of carrying in my hand. Maddy owners, chime in please...do you carry in our hand or can you wear it on your shoulder?