Ok here's the situation: I work with this girl S., with whom I am good friends--we socialise occassionally outside of work and have many things in common. I do respect her abilities as a nurse very much but...her work ethic SUCKS. She calls in sick I would say about 30% of the time in any given 4 week period, sometimes more. For example this week she called out Sunday--"allergies"--Tues., no reason given except "sick", and tonight (Thursday) with "strept throat", which makes this the second or third time in the past 6 months she's supposedly had strept throat. Previously she has called out because her BF had strept, because of her housemate's various medical problems, because her soon-to-be ex-husband was "aggressive" with her on the phone, because the wind blew her front door back and broke her fron porch light, because her AC wasn't working...I could go on and on. I know people get sick but come on! She's young and appears perfectly healthy to me. This latest string of call-outs has given her eight days off in a row, more if she continues to call out next week. She is always whining about how she doesn't have any money which is a joke because her wealthy parents send her checks all the time (though she claims she doesn't accept money from them any more). She also has some sort of trust fund. Clearly she doesn't "have" to work, so I would really like to know why she allows herself to be scheduled for 40 hours a week if she's not interested in working them. Her financial status is none of my business, I know, except that she does complain very ostentatiously about having to shop for groceries at Wal-Mart to save $$$ and how she can't afford to buy this or that. Also, every time she comes back to work after one of her extended "sick" times, she has to talk all night about how sick she was and go into elaborate detail which frankly I don't want to hear and don't believe anyway. The thing is...it's very demoralizing, not only to me but the rest of the nurses up here, that she calls out so much and apparently is never going to be disciplined for it. Not to mention that there is a nursing shortage and we often have to work short-staffed when she calls out. She tries to justify herself by saying she always calls out early enough so that we can find someone to replace her. Excuse me? Maybe, if we're lucky! I think she truly does feel guilty about her behavior but she continues to do it nevertheless. So...how can I stay friends with her? I have a lot of resentment, I admit. I busted my tail this past Tues. as did every other nurse up here because we couldn't get another nurse to replace her. I know when we work together again she's going to try to tell me all about how sick she was and I don't know if I'll be able to keep my cool--it gets harder every time. I work hard and show up for my scheduled shifts and I expect the same behavior from my co-workers. Granted everyone gets sick once in a while but this is a case of "the boy who cried wolf". I happen to know, because she has told me, that many times when she calls out "sick" it's for some other, frivolous reason (see front porch light incident in 1st paragraph). I am at a loss as to what to do. I truly do not know how to handle my anger and frustration at her irresponsible behavior. Ultimately it doesn't have anything to do with me but I can't help but have feelings about it which is affecting my feelings about being friends with her. Previously I have tried to blow it off and ignore it but I'm just sick of it. I hope I've explained adequately! Any advice?