Yesterday I found out that my old co-worker (who is now in another department) went to my boss (and cc'd his manager) to complain about me. Last week I asked him to do a quick review of a document and he felt like it wasnt his job. I totally disagree that it isnt his job but even so I think if he had a problem with it he should have come to me, not my boss. Well my boss told him exactly you should go to her if you had a problem. This is a guy I worked very closely with for 2 years, just recently came to my work bday celebration in other words I thought we were work friends. When I saw him today I asked to speak with him and he looked very nervous. I asked him to explain his side and I explained mine. He kept saying he wasnt here to argue and kept trying to leave. I had to get my point across though. I explained why I did not think it was inappropriate of me to ask him to review the document and said that if he had a problem with it he should have came directly to me. He seemed upset that I confronted him but how could he expect me NOT to say something?? That isnt me and he should know that. I am not upset that he thought I asked him to do that "wasn't his job" cuz I totally disagree. I am upset with how he handled it. I did get in one zinger As a man, I would expect you to come directly to me if you had a problem with me, not behind my back to my manager. Then he literally ran away. I hate when people do something then dont have backbone to defend it. Grow some b$%^s IMHO. It was immature of me to make the "as a man" comment I should have said "as a professional". By that point in the conversation I was pretty pissed. I just felt betrayed or something. I don't know if he was really trying to get me in trouble but.... After the conversation I re-sent my original email to him, my manager and his manager so it was clear on what I had asked him to do (he stated the facts a little off in our conversation) and explained why I didn't think it was wrong for me to ask and that I would have preferred him come directly to me if he had a problem. I felt like I should 'CYA' with his manager. I am happy I stood up for myself and consider it over. He is probably still mad since he seems to hold stuff but oh well. That's his issue! ------------ Oh its not like I am in trouble with my manager, he agrees that I didn't ask the guy to do anything inappropriate and thinks he should have come to me not him. So that's all good! Thanks for reading. I need to get it all out so that my anger about it goes away.