How do members handle a situation like I have right now? I inquired about a bag that I wanted to buy on eBay. I didn't want to mention the sale because I was afraid some one would see it and bid before I could. I wanted some final information before I bid. Another member posted the sale on my thread before I bid. Then another purse forum member bought the bag right before I did. Because of this, I don't want to ever inquire about a purse that is on eBay. It will only call attention to it. I had hoped this would be a fair and honest forum. Instead it has turned out to be too competitive for me. I'm really devastated about losing this purse. I would have bought it anyway, but just wanted confirmation right before I did. I literally lost it by a minute or two.