Hi, I have a YG Alhambra diamond set- the earrings and pendant. This is a really beautiful set and what I originally wanted. But, I find myself changing my preference in the gold colour often. Sometimes, I wish that I’ve purchased it in rose gold. Other times, I wish that I’ve bought white gold. I find myself weighing the pros and cons of each option. I feel like I’m experiencing this because of the tyranny of choice. Psychology research calls this the tyranny of choice- when people are given a choice, they are less happy with their final choice than when they have no choice. I don’t believe that I’ll sell my yellow gold set because it’s a poor financial decision, but I’m struggling to come to terms with my choice. Do you find yourself in the same situation? How do you overcome this dilemma?
Buyer’s Regret
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Yes, I definately have had buyers regret too. White gold is not my friend....I purchased two pieces and tried to like them...so I rehomed those pieces and I know I need to stick to yellow gold...
I second guess frequently and I think it just sets me up to want to buy more and curate a more versatile collection. I would get bored with the same jewelry daily.
I hear you. DH and my independent jeweler told me only a few years ago that YG is best on my skin tone. This after years of me wearing WG only. I was like, couldn’t you have told me sooner lol. So, when I went to VCA, it was easy. . .
I’m YG predominantly. PG is ok. WG is very limited. I don’t see how WG will overtake YG. Sometimes I do second guess and question myself why would I wanna buy another WG (like my VCA WG bracelet coming its way). But i really like some varieties in my jewellery. WG may not “look best” against my skin tone compared to YG but i believe I can make it work. And it’s part of the fun.
That’s how I personally cope.
That’s how I personally cope.
I think this could be a natural thing many of us have experienced over the course of a lifetime. Tastes change, influence in trends can impact us (note a few years ago it was yellow everything, before that it was white gold everything and now we are seeing an uptick in white gold popularity again), design options can be limiting or vast, etc. There is no harm in expanding your options, and there is no right or wrong with pairing pieces together. When pairing or layering, not everything needs to be all yellow gold, all rose or all white to be beautiful. That is the great thing about jewelry...go with what makes you happy at the time. All 3 main colors of gold (y, r, w) are classic in my opinion. Now... when a design comes in all three options (or more ex: black) that is where I can understand the dilemma regarding making the "right" choice. Then I try to remind myself: there is no enjoyment in trying to make purchase and having to to worry about how one may feel about it in five or ten years down the road. Those fears of change in taste may or may not ever happen! So, unless you absolutely cannot stand it anymore, enjoy the process of adding something different rather than regretting past choices.
I feel you and this has happened to me many times. If i purchased something that I was 98% sure that I love, I'd still beat myself over buying it and focus on the 2%.
What I can suggest is that you don't let this feeling of guilt/regret consume you. Try putting these pieces away of a short period of time until you start feeling a bit more calm and level headed. Out of sight, out of mind. Finally re-introduce these pieces in your routine again, start small i.e. just start wearing the earrings again on their own. Eventually start wearing the necklace. I am sure you will start enjoying them again.
Also doing a google search of these items and how it looks on other people, will make you realise how beautiful these items really are. I have the pave earrings on my wishlist and I cant wait to buy them this year or next hopefully.
I hope this helps.
I can’t relate to the question of gold color but I have bought pieces that I regretted later, and really bothered me to even see them in my collection. I’ve just sold those and cut my losses and mental anguish. I’d rather lose money than know a piece I really don’t like is sitting in my collection. And there pieces I don’t hate but am bored of or doesn’t fit my lifestyle at the moment but I know I may change my mind about and wear again. Those I’ve kept. Everyone is different and deals with these situations differently. Do what gives you the most peace.
This 100% @EpiFanatic
I would rather lose money and have a collection I wear to death than accumulate pieces just so I have a huge collection! I am not competing with anyone for the size of my collection and I say this because I know of people who only buy pieces because they want to have everything that everyone else has just so they can boast of a large collection! How silly! And then they have regrets later!
Even if we buy the pieces for the right reasons, our tastes evolve overtime. Happens to all of us. We all deal with it differently. I have let go of pieces by gifting or rehoming and I would do that in a heartbeat to any piece I have outgrown completely.
@littlecollector I have a predominately non-VCA YG collection and there are times I have wished some of them were rose gold because that’s what I predominantly wear right now. But, those pieces have sentimental value since they were given by my parents so they are never ever leaving my collection and I try to do justice to them whenever I can. It’s the pieces I buy myself that I regret later that I have no problem rehoming!
I am taking a hard look at my current VCA collection and mulling over pieces that I never wear! I have to keep telling myself to stay true to myself. I love the look of stone pieces but just don’t wear them. I like pieces that are easy to maintain and wear in any weather or occasion. That’s pave and solid gold pieces for me. I really need to stick to those for future purchases and stop getting tempted by VCA stone pieces!
We are all going to make mistakes. No matter how much we deliberate over each piece before we purchase them, there will still be some purchases that will give us buyers remorse or ‘cognitive dissonance’ in Marketing lingo.
Material things are not something to lose your peace over. Do what feels right for you.
I deal with it the easy ( but more expensive way) by having pieces in all three colors of gold lol! 😆
Not necessarily vca pieces, just jewelry in general.
Not necessarily vca pieces, just jewelry in general.
I get what you mean. I bought a 5 motif YG MOP bracelet and a RG pave pendant. They didn't have the pendant in YG and I kind of wish I got that one? But I don't mind mixing metals, and RG "pops" more against my skin tone. I do really love RG and it layers really well with my other RG necklaces, making it a great layering piece. Even today, I found myself admiring my pendant in the mirror. So long story short, I'm not a huge jewelry person (but VCA is quickly changing that!) and I'm just going to enjoy what I have!
I totally experience this more often than not myself especially when I'm wearing an outfit and think "if only I chose silver instead of gold" or vice versa. I can't seem to stop buying gold/rose gold and often skip over silver but I have bags, belts and shoes that have silver in it and at times when I wear those, I wish I had picked silver. I remind myself not to regret these purchases as much as I can because I need both in my collection so I have options.
I have a few more things to add to my last advice... Sorry if it's tedious to read. Just want to be helpful.
I have to admit, life is a lot easier once you have found which metals work and which don't work with your skin tone. This way your options get narrower by default! For example, I simply can't wear any rose or pink gold. It does not suit my skin and wears me off. Yellow gold is the star of the show and white gold a decent contender. Hence I know I can't buy fine jewellery from Hermes or Chaumet, which both have little to no variety of yellow gold.
Before selling your pave VCA pieces, maybe figure out if it's really just the metal you are unsure about or the style. You mentioned you wonder if white would've worked better in white or even pink gold. So what I'm understanding is, you haven't picked out a metal for yourself then. If it's a metal issue, then have you finally realised it's yellow gold that doesn't work with your skin or wardrobe? Another important consideration, was this pave set a one off yellow gold in your fine jewellery collection or do you have other pieces in yellow gold? Take pictures of yourself in different metal jewellery, see how you look. Ask your partner, family or friends for their input. One of the metals will glow on you, I promise!
If it's the style then, I agree that tastes and preferences change. But pave jewellery will stand the test of time.
I have to admit, life is a lot easier once you have found which metals work and which don't work with your skin tone. This way your options get narrower by default! For example, I simply can't wear any rose or pink gold. It does not suit my skin and wears me off. Yellow gold is the star of the show and white gold a decent contender. Hence I know I can't buy fine jewellery from Hermes or Chaumet, which both have little to no variety of yellow gold.
Before selling your pave VCA pieces, maybe figure out if it's really just the metal you are unsure about or the style. You mentioned you wonder if white would've worked better in white or even pink gold. So what I'm understanding is, you haven't picked out a metal for yourself then. If it's a metal issue, then have you finally realised it's yellow gold that doesn't work with your skin or wardrobe? Another important consideration, was this pave set a one off yellow gold in your fine jewellery collection or do you have other pieces in yellow gold? Take pictures of yourself in different metal jewellery, see how you look. Ask your partner, family or friends for their input. One of the metals will glow on you, I promise!
If it's the style then, I agree that tastes and preferences change. But pave jewellery will stand the test of time.