While I haven't read your previous story/posts, this one was quite amazing. You sound like a brilliant, sensative woman with a wonderful career and life ahead of you. Don't settle.
I was married for 8 years to a guy that was completely insensative to my moods, needs, emotional happiness. He was otherwise a fine husband, right? He went to work every day, never considered cheating on me or treating me badly. But whenever I needed him, he disappeared emotionally.
I ended up feeling so alone, and abandon, even though we rarely spent a night apart, that I ended up gaining 50 lbs (5'5" 185 lbs) and was miserable. Finally, I lost the weight, lopped off all my hair, got a tattoo and begged him to get therapy so we could
communicate. He refused, he never saw his lack of support as a problem. I was devestated and did the unthinkable, I had an affair. It was the worst thing ever and my husband and I split shortly thereafter.
But all the signs of our lack of communication, his inability to provide what I needed in the way of emotional support, where there from before we married. I wish I had a big sister or older, wiser friends that could have helped me recognize the signs of long term incompatibility.
If you see them know, I'm guessing they'll just become more magnified over time, polarizing you two even more.
Think about your true needs and if he is really able to meet them.
Best wishes to you!!!