Big day: inside an $80,000 wedding - comments please
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Agree totally.
If the couple has a net worth of over tens of millions, what is $80K? This is like bashing Bill Gates for spending hundreds of thousand dollars on a sports car.
I can see the similarity between the girls in this forum and typical people who do not care about spending $$ on designer bags. People think that I am crazy for buying one or two birkins. They chuckled and commented in a demeaning way, "It's like a downpayment for a house or a full car payment for us!" Well, too bad. Everyone has his/her own priorities and sense of worth. If I can afford it and enjoy getting it. Why not?
well said!
My wedding is in 2 weeks. We are only having very close friends and family (about 90 people), and it's still costing us almost $20k. I've been trying to save money, my mother has been trying to splurge. (I'm the only daughter.) The expenses of a NY wedding add up very quickly. Am I sorry that we're spending all that money? No. I'm going to have a memorable day with my FH. I understand that what's memorable to me may not be memorable to someone else.
Really, whatever someone wants to soend is up to them- weddings add up FAST, with 280 ppl, I could easily see how the price could get there! I got married on the sand, on the beach- the permit cost nothing from the city and the chairs, arch, set up and take down was like $2,500. Nothing! 
Of course, The reception site had a space rental fee of $20,000. 
No food, no tables, no liquor - empty! So I'm guess you can see where I'm going. The costs are crazy, but you can't judge people on what they spend, every wedding, every person (just like every handbag!) is unique, to each her own!
Of course, The reception site had a space rental fee of $20,000. No food, no tables, no liquor - empty! So I'm guess you can see where I'm going. The costs are crazy, but you can't judge people on what they spend, every wedding, every person (just like every handbag!) is unique, to each her own!
Haha funny. ITA with you though. I don't understand where all the money went to. Their cake was only 2 tiers? They got married in a CHURCH? Whaaat?
The details were quite vague, so I am unsure what cost so much, but if they can afford it and that is their dream, than who I am I to say no to their dream? To each their own, I hope they had a perfect wedding day.
we had 60 guests, and if I add it all up the total will be $25K - we went to the best hotel in town, the room hire was for free, had a prof foto session and a videographer. our cake was 7 tiers hubby's random choice - a challenge for the chef but hey....
I do not understand what cost them so much then.... but if they've got, hey why not?
hubby's random choice - a challenge for the chef but hey....I do not understand what cost them so much then.... but if they've got, hey why not?
Our wedding was over 80k last August with 80 guests. We wanted to serve exquisite food and wine and we don't regret our decision. It was the best day of our lives!
Some folks spend millions on the big day. If you can afford it, why not? It's supposed to be the "one perfect day". I am so excited for the girls on the TPF who are getting married soon. No matter what the cost, it's going to be their perfect day!
Some folks spend millions on the big day. If you can afford it, why not? It's supposed to be the "one perfect day". I am so excited for the girls on the TPF who are getting married soon. No matter what the cost, it's going to be their perfect day!
I think it's a "whatever floats your boat" decision for the two getting married, depending on what they can afford.
My fiancee had planned the most lavish event, over 3 days, costing a fortune, when all I really cared about was marrying him (on a beach, cliff top, wherever). I think that it's easy to lose sight of the reasons for marriage with lavish weddings, but it's certainly a personal choice.
My fiancee had planned the most lavish event, over 3 days, costing a fortune, when all I really cared about was marrying him (on a beach, cliff top, wherever). I think that it's easy to lose sight of the reasons for marriage with lavish weddings, but it's certainly a personal choice.
In my country, weddings w/ a 1000 people is standard. If you've met someone once then you invite that person especially business people...They are usually done in ballrooms in 5 star-hotels, Western Style...Wedding is really a huge deal, enough to even hire famous pop stars, order flowers from Europe, have a huge pre-party the day before, change gowns etc for church ceremonies which can be 5 hours apart from the actual party haha...Due to the traffic there, policemen escorts are even hired for faster and easier passing haha....
So because of this, I consider weddings in America sort of small and not exciting enough (sorry no offence intended)...And I'm surprise that I'm still hungry leaving the party (again no offence), which is a huge No-No in my country...
Personally, my parents think/sort of insist that I'll have my wedding there. However, the pros of American weddings is not much a hassle.
So because of this, I consider weddings in America sort of small and not exciting enough (sorry no offence intended)...And I'm surprise that I'm still hungry leaving the party (again no offence), which is a huge No-No in my country...
Personally, my parents think/sort of insist that I'll have my wedding there. However, the pros of American weddings is not much a hassle.
We spent ~$1200 total on our wedding last year, and people are still talking about how fabulous it was.
Whatever floats your boat if you've got the money (although I think a whole lot of people who throw lavish weddings can't really afford to do so), but I don't think you need to spend a lot to make it a great day.
Whatever floats your boat if you've got the money (although I think a whole lot of people who throw lavish weddings can't really afford to do so), but I don't think you need to spend a lot to make it a great day.