thank you for both of the responses.whoosh. what a loaded question.
i guess it depends. you could a) drink a glass of wine w/ sugar cookies (my personal cure for the blues) b) buy a realationship book c) bring it up to him and see if he even knows or, *sigh*, d) leave him?
I feel bad for you, I know what that feeling is like and it sucks.
ahh I'm going through the SAME EXACT THING!! And my bf reacts the same way as your'sthank you for both of the responses.
see, when i bring it up with him, he does the *Sighs exasperatedly* *closes eyes* *has the "whatever, keep talking, i'm just amusing you by pretending to listen* and then just ignores me. i end up getting so frustrated that i stop talking, and then he pulls me to him as if everything is ok. it's not.
i guess he just doesn't care anymore -- that is such an awful, awful thing to realize, especially when i care so much for him, still. how did this happen?
thank you.i'm very sorry to hear about what happen.
my ex husband used to take the marriage for granted.
he never make any effort to help me clean the house. when we had arguments, he doesnt want to talk about it. he will have a long sigh everytime i asked him to help wash the dishes (cos I will interrupt his PS2 games). he play his PS2 all night long everyday, so i always sleep before him. i can count with my fingers how often we went to sleep at the same time (mostly becos hes not feeling well). then he never remember to pay his bills. i actually have to write a reminder to remind him on my diary, and when i completely forgot about it, he will complain about the late charges...the lists go on!
please re-evaluate your relationship before its too late. i thought i was winning when i can do whatever i want (meaning he doesnt even care what take out we ordered as long as he doesnt have to choose, that means i can choose whatever i feel like eating) and so on. But in the end I got so sick of it cos i did everything for him and never receive anything back.
my hubby-to-be is the total opposite . as bad as it sounds, i'm glad i filed for that divorce because otherwise i wouldnt have met someone who deserves me. and girly, so do you. you deserves so much more, much more than you think.
sorry for the long post
thats what everyone been telling me before too, i totally understand when you feel extra bad cos you have so much feeling for him and others seems dissing him.t
my guy friends have said "he's gotten too comfortable" or "he's taking you for granted," and my girl friends have basically said the same thing, too.
I agree with this advice.ITA with *jennifer*. It's time to withdraw your affection! This does not neccessarily mean breaking up with him--just quit being at his beck and call! Why should you sit around his apartment while he's playing computer games? Start making other plans for those nights when otherwise you'd just be hanging out at his place. Doesn't matter what---out with the girls or just home alone giving yourself a mani/pedi. DON'T call him and DON'T answer your phone if he calls, no matter how hard that may be. Either he will start to miss you and realize he's been taking you for granted---or he won't. You still win, you know.