I have been best friends with, well let's call her "D", D for nearly 13 years now. I love her to death and since we are both only children she has always been like the sister I never had. Naturally, as many close friendships go, during and after college we both got into VASTLY different interests and lives but still remained best friends, even to this day. She is single, a complete jetsetter, flexible career, worldwide party girl, more INDIE fashion follower than mainstream, but yet somehow can be REALLY practical minded. I, on the other hand; got married at 25 (no children), started a career as a school teacher, enjoy quiet evenings and dinners with my friends rather than parties, I do ALSO love to travel but it's with my husband now.... not to jetset and party. Anyway, even though we remain best friends and talk frequently sometimes I feel like we are just so unrelatable. It really hit me this evening when we got into a "shopping" conversation, which we RARELY do because we have such different habits. She ACTUALLY said to me, "yeah, the other day when you were talking about ANOTHER hangbag I was like "WHA'.. ANOTHER ONE." I don't get it, I know this is what you like but I just think it's such a waste." She REPEATEDLY makes comments about these sort of things and dislikes how I like designer ANYTHING. YET, this is the woman that JUST finished telling me she decided she is spending 4 months in Europe this spring/summer to see friends, party, etc. The amount that she spends on this ONE TRIP is more than I will spent on bags/shoes ALL YEAR. I know I shouldn't care what others think but it's REALLY hard when it's your best friend/sister. The way she talks about some of the things I like to do, collect, buy, places I travel to, etc... really hurts my feelings. Sometimes I feel like it's ok for HER to do semi-"extravagant" things but it's not ok for ME to do them because it's not what SHE likes. I don't know, does anyone have these kind of relationships that can offer advice? I've talked to her about it before and she apologizes for making me feel bad but it never really changes her opinion, or voicing of it. I love her and don't want to lose her friendship but the WORST part is I find myself PURPOSEFULLY not telling her things sometimes 'cause I don't want to deal with the judgement. And, I know, this is NOT how it should be with best friends! Hmm. Thank you.