Wow. This thread brings back memories of how my parents were. I am Asian, too, and while growing up they didn't even compliment me at all for my top grades and my accomplishments. I felt that everything I did didn't matter and I was always trying to make them happy to no avail. I even was in pre-med and was ready to apply to med school. It just wasn't my calling. Banking was more my style.
It was later on when I was out of high school when I found out that my parents bragged about me to all their friends. When I was doing well in my job as Senior Operations Manager of a bank, they bragged about that, too.
When I got married, my husband and I felt that it would be best that I stay home when we have children. So I became a SAHM. To my parents, you would think I did something demeaning to myself!! When my kids were toddlers, my parents would comment that I would make such a good lawyer (blah, blah, blah) and that I should go back to school. They couldn't even see the value of my being home taking care of my kids. They couldn't comprehend that I was really very happy!
Fast forward to the present: I'm still a SAHM, my kids are teenagers, and my parents, now retired, are now proud that I have been home all this time with my children because when they see their grandchildren, they see intelligent and respectful human beings who are also scholar athletes.
After all this time, I'm glad my parents and I see eye to eye on this issue.
I'm more mature and don't give a hoot what they think I ought to be doing anyhow!!
When my parents try their little Asian competitive b.s. on my children, I actually tell my parents to stop and not do that kind of thing anymore. Funny thing is that they actually listen to me!