Hi ladies,
I posted about a week ago in regards to the wedding band I've fallen head over heels in love with.
Here is the link to that thread: http://forum.purseblog.com/the-jewelry-box/wedding-band-question-282782.html
I need some advice and helpful words, b/c I'm torn between being angry at my fiance, and feeling like a spoiled little brat. Basically, we've spent the past month or so trying to pick out our wedding bands. From the get go I've stated that I want to be in love with my rings, b/c upgrading them is pointless to me and I don't want to ever do it.
About two weeks ago, we stopped into the Robbin's brothers store here in San Diego, and I feel helplessly in love with a particular ring. It's in the link above, but in description, it's a platinum curved band with four round cut stones and three asscher stones in a channel setting. My e-ring is a fancy blue asscher, so the tiny asschers in the band killed me, and I flipped for the ring. Unfortunately, the price also killed me, b/c it was $4,000! I guess I should have expected it, considering it's almost a 1.5 ct worth of diamonds and platinum.
I knew it was way out of our budget, but I hadn't been that excited over anything, including my wedding dress, so my fiance suggested approaching our jeweler and seeing if he could build something similar, cheaper. I did, but it would have been equally expensive, so it was a no go. So while I was upset at losing the ring as an option, I decided it was probably for the better and explored my options.
The next night, my fiance came home so excited to tell me that he had been in touch with the SA at Robbin's brothers, and the ring was available in palladium, for half the cost! I told him I was sold, but a week later, and still no indication from my fiance that he was ready to order my ring. I decided to feel him out and see what the deal was, so I suggested looking at plain bands as another option. All of a sudden, he goes, "Awesome. That's a really cool concession. We'll just upgrade your ring next year!"
Hello? Haven't I said I don't want to upgrade from the beginning?!
I humored him, and we looked at plain bands this weekend. He's basically ordered me a 2mm platinum band, priced at $750. I HATE IT. I'm not a plain band girl. Anyone looking in my jewelry box will tell you that, and he knows it as well. He knew I wasn't excited by anything we looked at.
While home this evening, I looked on emitations.com, and found a simple silver band with channel set asschers for $175. I showed it to him as an option, and he looks at me and crinkles his nose, saying, "why compromise on your wedding ring? We'll just get you a plain band now and upgrade later. Why waste the money?"
*Aren't we wasting money on a band I already know I'll never wear? At least this ring is more my taste, and a quarter of the price!
What kills me is that he totally got my hopes up by researching the band I loved. He found it for half the price we were originally quoted, told me about it, and insinuated that he'd order it. Then, he pulls the rug out from under me by declaring plain is the way to go. He picked out the band he wanted and I got it for him. The cost of my ring is an slight inconvenience, not a major impossibility, so the price isn't a good excuse.
I feel bratty and spoiled for being this upset over a ring, but considering that it's the only ring I'll wear everyday for the rest of my life, I feel I shouldn't have to compromise, especially with something I already resent.
Sorry this rant is so long and disjointed, but I'm furious/ashamed at my reaction, and I need some words of encouragement or rationalization. Help?
I posted about a week ago in regards to the wedding band I've fallen head over heels in love with.
Here is the link to that thread: http://forum.purseblog.com/the-jewelry-box/wedding-band-question-282782.html
I need some advice and helpful words, b/c I'm torn between being angry at my fiance, and feeling like a spoiled little brat. Basically, we've spent the past month or so trying to pick out our wedding bands. From the get go I've stated that I want to be in love with my rings, b/c upgrading them is pointless to me and I don't want to ever do it.
About two weeks ago, we stopped into the Robbin's brothers store here in San Diego, and I feel helplessly in love with a particular ring. It's in the link above, but in description, it's a platinum curved band with four round cut stones and three asscher stones in a channel setting. My e-ring is a fancy blue asscher, so the tiny asschers in the band killed me, and I flipped for the ring. Unfortunately, the price also killed me, b/c it was $4,000! I guess I should have expected it, considering it's almost a 1.5 ct worth of diamonds and platinum.
I knew it was way out of our budget, but I hadn't been that excited over anything, including my wedding dress, so my fiance suggested approaching our jeweler and seeing if he could build something similar, cheaper. I did, but it would have been equally expensive, so it was a no go. So while I was upset at losing the ring as an option, I decided it was probably for the better and explored my options.
The next night, my fiance came home so excited to tell me that he had been in touch with the SA at Robbin's brothers, and the ring was available in palladium, for half the cost! I told him I was sold, but a week later, and still no indication from my fiance that he was ready to order my ring. I decided to feel him out and see what the deal was, so I suggested looking at plain bands as another option. All of a sudden, he goes, "Awesome. That's a really cool concession. We'll just upgrade your ring next year!"
Hello? Haven't I said I don't want to upgrade from the beginning?!
I humored him, and we looked at plain bands this weekend. He's basically ordered me a 2mm platinum band, priced at $750. I HATE IT. I'm not a plain band girl. Anyone looking in my jewelry box will tell you that, and he knows it as well. He knew I wasn't excited by anything we looked at.
While home this evening, I looked on emitations.com, and found a simple silver band with channel set asschers for $175. I showed it to him as an option, and he looks at me and crinkles his nose, saying, "why compromise on your wedding ring? We'll just get you a plain band now and upgrade later. Why waste the money?"
*Aren't we wasting money on a band I already know I'll never wear? At least this ring is more my taste, and a quarter of the price!
What kills me is that he totally got my hopes up by researching the band I loved. He found it for half the price we were originally quoted, told me about it, and insinuated that he'd order it. Then, he pulls the rug out from under me by declaring plain is the way to go. He picked out the band he wanted and I got it for him. The cost of my ring is an slight inconvenience, not a major impossibility, so the price isn't a good excuse.
I feel bratty and spoiled for being this upset over a ring, but considering that it's the only ring I'll wear everyday for the rest of my life, I feel I shouldn't have to compromise, especially with something I already resent.
Sorry this rant is so long and disjointed, but I'm furious/ashamed at my reaction, and I need some words of encouragement or rationalization. Help?
