I think I need someone to tell me it's not so bad... I am always shopping. Whether it be purses, high end jeans, cosmetics, etc. I agreed with my husband on New Years eve that I would cut back but it's just easier said than done. We have the funds for my shopping sprees but my husband is very conservative financially and doesn't share my passion for designer items. I think the more he pulls me back, the more I spend! LOL. Anyway, today I bought a Marc Jacobs Blake bag and now I am looking into the MJ Stam (I will resist temptation, or so I keep telling myself).
So I'm wondering if any of you have husbands/boyfriends who are unsupportive of your shopping habits too? Also, how do you stop feeling bad about how much you spend on fashion?
I completely understand where you are coming from. I have the exact same problem with constantly wanting to shop for designer bags, cosmetics, etc. I think it is an impulse problem for me, because I will get obsessed, then lose interest a week later. My shopping increases if I am anticipating finding good deals, as if it is a challenge. Also, this is a rough time of year for those unnecessary, impulse purchases because its the best time to find those designer labels on sale. I have to ask myself, do I need that stupid chloe jacket because I NEED a jacket, of because its 65% off and its Chloe?
I think all things are relative. My husband is supportive of my shopping to a certain extent; he will let me know what is cute and what isnt and I feel that is a good meeting point, and that allows me to return some items and keep others. He appreciates quality and designer labels to a certain extent, and tells me I should buy it if it makes me feel good (up to a point!) If youre feeling guilty, its because you know you're going too far. If you want to buy the designer jeans because it fills a legitimate hole in your wardrobe, you should do it. But dont feel like you need to have everything top dollar. Besides, the older I get, I know what I need is clothes and shoes for work, not jeans, sweaters, fun little handbags and high heels. My husband asked me "how many times are you going to wear that big ol cowl neck sweater anyway" (I thought it was so great and I needed it so badly)
I hear is a lot of girls saying they're so incredibly worth it. I worry about that a little, no offense to anyone. Maybe you have a ton of money, or someone you know gives it to you. When I feel myself getting greedy, I start to think about what my husband does for me, and what my family did for me growing up. He never spends that kind of money on himself; but he will get nice things for US. He lets me splurge, and I do...a little. He has no debt, he has a huge amount of savings, and I want him to know that I respect him for being financially responsible for us, and I want to do the same for him. When I start to think one or two designer handbags is not enough, I look at the girls on the street who look happy and cute, I dont see big bucks; I see a balance of originality in what they wear, simplicity, and fun. Its a real drag feeling guilty too.
Do what I have just started doing. Have a budget. Have no credit card balance. Then when you want something, you dont have to feel guilty. Also, you're not Paris Hilton, you don't need one in every color! (Im lecturing myself here too). Does it fill a hole in your wardrobe? Did you think you needed it before you saw it? Your husband will be a lot more excited for you if you really had good reasons for your big purchases. At least in my case, I keep telling myself how I would just die if my husband thought I was selfish person or a financial drain. Its both of your money now. He'll love you all the same. Good luck!
I know you can do it!
I can honestly say-I have clothes, shoes etc. hanging in my closet or given away that I never used. Sometimes it's like a sickness! I see a good deal and want it-then never use it. Thank God for consignment shops!
