I can totally relate Dana. Although, sometimes I WISH I had a husband that told me to stop sometimes. My DH grew up with a Mom and two sisters that were just as big of shoppers as I am so he's used to it and when I see something I really like he always says, "well, get it."
The other night he actually said "I like your bag collection, it makes me happy to see you get things you want." Umm, I know. I know!! Many women would KILL to hear this sort of shopping support from their husbands but even though he's so sweet and wants to see me happy I really can't help but feel bad. We both make really MODERATE salaries, I actually make slightly more than he does but I am also the one who takes care of the finances 100%. I never put my shopping sprees on credit card but even spending cash on these things makes me feel bad 'cause where could that money go... to SAVINGS!
I know I am addicted to clothes, cosmetics, bags, and shoes but I think I need to get addicted to saving 'cause even though we have no children, are young, and use cash to fund my shopping I still can't help but think... WOW, I could have just put all that money into savings.
Truth be told, we BOTH love to spend money unfortunately. We go on at least 3 vacations a year and I am never without. DH does NOT share my passion for clothing, or ANYTHING designer at all, but he does love to spend money going on trips. Some people tell us, "ehh, don't worry about it.. you guys are young, you have no children, enjoy it while you can." But in the back of my head I am thinking "WOAH, this should be the time we SAVE for the future."
aye, I know, all such dillemas. But Dana, if you made a pact to spend less in the New Year maybe you can device a financial plan on what exactly you can spend, and maybe even put some aside for a certain benchmark to reward yourself. For example, something like, "Well, if I can "do good" until the end of April (or whenever), I can buy myself this." That way you have something to work toward and something to look forward to.