My DD works as an EA for someone well known, very high up at a top financial firm in NY. Her hours are literally killing her. She's getting 5 hours of sleep a night and only able to eat one meal a day. She has no social life at all and she's just 30.
Why? Because besides the long overtime hours she has to spend in her office, she's on call from 6am to midnight, answering emails and doing whatever each one requires as they come in from all over the world from her boss and traveling team. She spends her evenings and weekends working on projects she's been given. She can't even eat breakfast as she is so busy typing out responses to the heavy volume of emails she gets each morning on her several lap tops, iPad, and two phones, so she exists on coffee. She's not able to eat lunch at work due to the constant stream of incomings, plus all of the projects she is working on.
One of the team members, a young exec. does not like her, or feels threatened by her, so works to make her life harder. He sends her angry emails, yells over the phone and in person - he also does that to his own EA- so that's par for his course. But, he regularly dumps his own unfinished projects on her at the last minute and his assistant does the same so she ends up doing both of their jobs, plus her own. He has my DD redo things a different way from what her boss has had her do already, which takes an enormous amount of extra time on top of her already heavy duties, then will have her work for hours on a complicated multi-country trip, scheduling meetings, doing logistics, etc, and presents her work to their boss as his own work and ideas to get all the credit. The boss has no idea how many hours of extra work she is having to put in because of this guy. She's went to HR but got nowhere last fall.
This guy just wrote up a blisteringly horrible review about her in which he actually lied about several things which made her look incompetent and as if she was hiding reports which were late - she never hid anything. What should she do? She's afraid she will lose her job as the boss has no idea that any of the above has been going on, so may believe this guy who is quite valuable to him. Her boss also has no idea - I think - about the insane hours my DH has been having to work. He seemed to like her a great deal before this guy came aboard, complementing her to people outside the firm and telling her what a great job she was doing, but she is not so sure he does anymore as he's told her he will consider this a few extra weeks before making a decision about whether she stays on.
I suggested that she ask her boss for 10 minutes of his time on Monday for a frank talk. She's emailed him that request and is waiting for a reply. She's so upset, in tears, and afraid that she will be let go.
Any advice would be welcome. Can she also lodge a complaint about the young exec with HR? Such a horrible review will destroy her chances at staying on at this firm should her boss decide to believe it.
Why? Because besides the long overtime hours she has to spend in her office, she's on call from 6am to midnight, answering emails and doing whatever each one requires as they come in from all over the world from her boss and traveling team. She spends her evenings and weekends working on projects she's been given. She can't even eat breakfast as she is so busy typing out responses to the heavy volume of emails she gets each morning on her several lap tops, iPad, and two phones, so she exists on coffee. She's not able to eat lunch at work due to the constant stream of incomings, plus all of the projects she is working on.
One of the team members, a young exec. does not like her, or feels threatened by her, so works to make her life harder. He sends her angry emails, yells over the phone and in person - he also does that to his own EA- so that's par for his course. But, he regularly dumps his own unfinished projects on her at the last minute and his assistant does the same so she ends up doing both of their jobs, plus her own. He has my DD redo things a different way from what her boss has had her do already, which takes an enormous amount of extra time on top of her already heavy duties, then will have her work for hours on a complicated multi-country trip, scheduling meetings, doing logistics, etc, and presents her work to their boss as his own work and ideas to get all the credit. The boss has no idea how many hours of extra work she is having to put in because of this guy. She's went to HR but got nowhere last fall.
This guy just wrote up a blisteringly horrible review about her in which he actually lied about several things which made her look incompetent and as if she was hiding reports which were late - she never hid anything. What should she do? She's afraid she will lose her job as the boss has no idea that any of the above has been going on, so may believe this guy who is quite valuable to him. Her boss also has no idea - I think - about the insane hours my DH has been having to work. He seemed to like her a great deal before this guy came aboard, complementing her to people outside the firm and telling her what a great job she was doing, but she is not so sure he does anymore as he's told her he will consider this a few extra weeks before making a decision about whether she stays on.
I suggested that she ask her boss for 10 minutes of his time on Monday for a frank talk. She's emailed him that request and is waiting for a reply. She's so upset, in tears, and afraid that she will be let go.
Any advice would be welcome. Can she also lodge a complaint about the young exec with HR? Such a horrible review will destroy her chances at staying on at this firm should her boss decide to believe it.
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