I feel like theres something wrong with me. I just bought a very beautiful cats eye and diamond ring and a hermes herakles ring one month apart. If i keep on doing this I will wipe out my bank account. I couldnt resist it! Ive been watching facebook live selling as it gives me joy watching them show me their products. And when I see one at a very good price I jump at it. I enjoyed every bit of it including the waiting for the item! I swore that these 2 purchase will be my last! Hopefully ill be able to hold on to that!
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Very happy for you.
Be careful though, many a true word spoken in jest, some people are literally addicted to different forms of shopping. Bargain hunting and bidding at auctions does stimulate the same highs (and lows) as gambling and other addictions.
Enjoy what you have, at least for a while. There is always going to be something nice to buy.
Be careful though, many a true word spoken in jest, some people are literally addicted to different forms of shopping. Bargain hunting and bidding at auctions does stimulate the same highs (and lows) as gambling and other addictions.
Enjoy what you have, at least for a while. There is always going to be something nice to buy.
Yes no matter how much Many I buy its never ending of nice things. My thoughts are “thats a good price. I wouldnt be able to buy it at that price. I should buy it” then sometimes id see something cheaper and i go “ oh no, i shouldve waited for that”. And im very interested with rare stones like I dont understand why I should own one. So i kept on thinking “i should get this. Not everyone has this” …. Whats worst, ive been hiding it from hubby. I even had it sent to my mother. And i already have a lot ive been keeping from him. I hate for him to find out.
I was in a similar situation some years back. I went a little crazy with fine jewelry rings. I bought 5 rings in a span of 2 years. (back then that was a lot for me)
Fortunately, I love them to this day and they are my daily pieces so I have definitely gotten my cost per wear out of them.
However, I've realized that I'm the kind of person who prefers to wear my items as much as I can. I'm not really into collecting a lot of fine jewelry and don't like it if it just sits there (heirloom pieces from family are an exception). I also am not great at rotating or switching up my jewelry and tend to wear the same things most of the time.
I am also not the kind of person to wear a ring on every finger (you know, to give myself the opportunity to buy more rings lol), that's too much for me. My ring stacks feel very complete to me and I am not in the mood, currently, to change things up.
So now when I see new fine jewelry rings, I'd like to buy them but then also don't really want to buy them. Not because I'm not sure if I'll like them, but then I'm not fond of putting my current rings aside or even giving them a break. Now, I'm missing out on certain rings. If I had not bought so many rings in my younger years, there are definitely rings that I would buy now.
So like @papertiger said, there will always be something to buy. Take your time and enjoy your new pieces. You'll never know what may come along in the future!
Fortunately, I love them to this day and they are my daily pieces so I have definitely gotten my cost per wear out of them.
However, I've realized that I'm the kind of person who prefers to wear my items as much as I can. I'm not really into collecting a lot of fine jewelry and don't like it if it just sits there (heirloom pieces from family are an exception). I also am not great at rotating or switching up my jewelry and tend to wear the same things most of the time.
I am also not the kind of person to wear a ring on every finger (you know, to give myself the opportunity to buy more rings lol), that's too much for me. My ring stacks feel very complete to me and I am not in the mood, currently, to change things up.
So now when I see new fine jewelry rings, I'd like to buy them but then also don't really want to buy them. Not because I'm not sure if I'll like them, but then I'm not fond of putting my current rings aside or even giving them a break. Now, I'm missing out on certain rings. If I had not bought so many rings in my younger years, there are definitely rings that I would buy now.
So like @papertiger said, there will always be something to buy. Take your time and enjoy your new pieces. You'll never know what may come along in the future!
I don't know how you and your husband share finances, but I think you are already have a problem if you are hiding these purchases from your husband. If you both have an agreed upon amount that you can spend without informing the other (or have your finances totally separate), then that is fine and you shouldn't have to hide anything. Are you paying in full for these items or are you putting them on a credit card? Don't answer that, but I recommend that no luxury purchases be put on a credit card unless you can pay it in full every month. If someone cannot pay for the items in full, I'd suggest they have a special savings account for spending on non-essential luxury items. Would you be happy to find out your husband was secretly spending large amounts of money on things above and beyond what you have agreed for mutual spending? I know I would not.
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I know so i feel terrible. Ill try to make this the last two that ill ever spent. I used credit card. I wanted to share here as i need to have someone to talk to. Sometimes i feel like he knew because i saw him at times suddenly look at possible hiding spots. Just yesterday, while praying the rosary, i saw him checking my jewelry box and i had to ask him what he was looking. He said he was looking for his ring.
I hope if you two aren't on the same page regarding spending that you'll consider meeting with a counselor or financial planner to help you both work out a plan that will be acceptable to both of you. Everyone needs a little money to freely spend. And on the other hand, one person should not control it all and the other have no input. I hope you two can work it all out so you can enjoy the money you earn while also saving and investing for the future!
I feel really and truly sorry for you. I agree with @A bottle of Red says about getting some sort of additional help regarding your finances. This situation has always been my greatest fear since I was 13. I knew at a very young age that I never wanted anyone to control what I spend my money on when my parents told me what I could and couldn't spend my allowance on.
I completely relate. It is a never ending stream of pretty things. Once I went crazy with perfume and ended up with over 200 bottles. About a year ago I culled my collection and daughter sold off many of them and I let her keep half the money. So a bottle I spent 400 for I got only 150 back. It was such a waste of money. My daughter loved it. She learned so much about perfume helping me. But it isn't just perfume. It is jewelry, especially vintage and antique pieces, decorating, French glass, jewelry boxes (huge weakness), bags, shoes, clothes. Even kitchen stuff like pots, pans, olivewood spoons and every gadget you can think of. I get obsessed with one thing like recently it was Birkenstock sandals which aren't that expensive unless you buy a pair for both your daughters, your daughter in law, 6 year granddaughter and of course 4 pairs for myself. Worst still I still want another pair. I kind of go crazy. But of all my habits, the jewelry gets the most expensive. Well decorating is bad too. I always buy too much decor items and end up having to give them away or sell them when I finish a room. At least jewelry is something I keep and I never cull. Still I feel your pain. I can't hide anything from my husband though. We share all our finances. He just rolls his eyes when I get a new piece.
I wish my husband would react the same haha. He would get mad for sure. I have a feeling he knew and was not just telling me. I bought a birkenstock sandals too and it was very painful to wear bit became less painful as i keep using it. It is so hard like you have wood for slippers lol.
Your habits are very similar to my fiancé’s. He gets focused on one thing and completely overdoes it. Clothing, shoes, cologne, jewelry. We have a joint savings account now for our future but he’s definitely got a problem and we are working it out. I have no idea how he will retire.