A re-design already?

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lubird217

lubird217

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#1
Thanks to fellow tpf-er gga I'm gushing for a custom Reinstein/Ross ring. I've been staring at that picture and been on their site since yesterday. Thanks, tpf.

I'm seriously considering taking out my 2 carat Emerald Cut diamond and putting it in that gorgeous setting, which sort of looks like an engagement ring and wedding band in one - I just love that look! I also adore YG. I could go for a shade of apricot, but I love the look of it, equally with platinum.

I love that they have so many gold alloy options, I really have to go see it in person.

Because DF will probably be horrified that I'm changing his ring, I'd also have to have the money to buy a radiant diamond to put in the emerald's place simultaneously. I can't have a naked engagement ring, right?

We've been engaged for just a few months and I really love the sparkle of my engagement ring but honestly that emerald cut has only sort of grown on me. The setting just shimmers away and I get none of that sparkle from the center diamond.

I know some others here love emerald cuts and I appreciate having it, but maybe on a second ring? We didn't really know what we were doing with the e-ring and I just think a similarly shaped diamond with better specs could be better. The color is an I and clarity is S12.

Also, the emerald cut diamond sits higher than I'd like which I'm assuming means I could get a slightly smaller radiant cut rock to sit lower in the mount.

The way I see this it's a win all around but 1. I don't want to hurt his feelings and 2. definitely couldn't afford this all at the moment.

There's a picture of my ring on the e-ring thread and I'm on a temp laptop so I can't get to another at the moment, but there are two .5 carat emerald cuts on the side. I don't think this would be a problem (the look of a radiant with two emerald cuts). Also, a radiant cut would have the look I always wanted out of a diamond (I really had wanted a cushion) instead of the step-cut emerald or asschers.

See! That thread about paying for your own jewels really hit home! When I don't pick & pay, I'm often not 100% happy and I waste a lot of time second-guessing.
 
#3
I think your e-ring is gorgeous, but I'm biased because my e-ring is an emerald cut with a halo as well. ;) I really like the contrast of the simplicity of the emerald cut against the brilliance of the round diamonds. I get a big flash and small little shimmers as well. From what I understand, did you want to replace the emerald cut with a radiant in your current setting? If I had your e-ring, I would leave it and consider getting a radiant in another setting. This way, you won't hurt his feelings and you can save up some money to purchase the radiant. But it all comes down to what you like and like you said, it is a win all around situation since you'll gain another gorgeous ring! :graucho:
 
#4
I understand the temptation the R&R that gga posted is gorgeous!! your ring is beautiful as well but I could under stand you wanting to change the styling of it. do you feel that the R&R is more of a forever design for you? after all it is your engagement ring and you have to wear it forever, run the idea by your fiance and see how he feels about changing the design, if it makes you happy i'm sure he will support your final decision:smile1:
 
#6
marialc121 - I like the way you think! I'm totally trying to get two rings out of this situation :) The ring has really become more special to me as we've been engaged, but I feel like I'd be changing it to my liking and it's not like I'd want to sell the diamond or even "give it away" in a jewelry store trade.

The Reinstein Ross ring that had the emerald cut diamond looked divine! I had no problem with that one being an emerald cut. I don't think I'd purchase a radiant cut diamond just to get a new R&R ring. If I ever buy myself a diamond it's going to be one hunk of a cushion!

I was leaning more towards a radiant because the cut can have that ratio over 1.2 that's a little rectangular and I thought it'd go best with the setting. I recently saw a friend's ring that was radiant cut and it was ridiculously awesome. We were at a restaurant and that center diamond was sparkling everywhere. It looked so crisp and white that it had me reconsidering everything! Add gga's new ring to the mix and I feel sold on a redo (without funds! haha).



candice - As a forever piece, do you mean I'd wear it on my left hand and call it an engagement ring?

I'd still want to wear the engagement ring and setting as it is, just with a sparklier ring. I know people feel sentimental about a certain diamond or ring, and I'm really feeling that way towards my setting. I'm curious as to whether people think it would look weird with a radiant flanked by two side emerald cuts. I really have no idea about that...

I've always been a little sensitive to settings that make a rock sit lower. I remember when kohl was deciding between her solas, I took it as a no brainer when I saw a diamond nicely tucked into the halo (sorry kohl I forget what you ended up choosing!)

That's really what I want. Poor DF probably feels done with all this but maybe he'll go for it instead of a wedding band.

If he feels sentimental towards any of this ring, maybe he'll be comforted by the fact that I'll still have all its parts? I will love them almost equally? lol, I'm really reaching for the justifiers here.
 
#7
I agree that gga's reset of her emerald cut is beautiful! I think you should have a talk with DF and see how he feels about it. ;) If he is agrees with the idea then you definitely need to see how the radiant cut looks with your current setting. I'm a bit unsure as well. But I can imagine the emerald cut will look awesome in the Reinstein/Ross setting. :D
 
#8
no offense, but i cannot believe you've been engaged for only a few short months and already you want another design? wow. i hope your fiancé doesn't get too disgusted with you. obviously you guys chose this ring design together, and to not even be married yet seems a little superfluous, don't you think?

i can see if you've been married for 10 years and for an anniversary present get another ring or maybe a redesign, but wow.

p.s. you're always going to see a ring that you like better than your own, does that mean you should change it every time? no, of course not. i don't know if i'd risk hurting his feelings for the sake of more bling, but that's me.

good luck with that.
 
#10
lubird217 said:
this is a little too full frontal (without seeing the setting), but you get some idea
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I think you are NUTS :smile1:--your ring is beautiful. personally i think reinstein ross makes stunning pieces but they are very ancient/artisanal and dont look much like engagement rings to me --but hey nothing wrong with doing something different. why dont you just splurge on something for your right hand. like a heavy band with a colored stone?
 
#11
I think your ring is beautiful! Although it sounds like your DF chose the ring himself, and surprised you with it? And it also sounds like you were never 100% happy with it?
In that case, I wouldn't term it a "redesign" because I don't think you've had the ring long enough for that. TBH, if you weren't thrilled with the ring in the first place, you should have spoken up right away, and by now, I think it might be a little too late for that without hurting feelings/causing financial loss. If I were you, I'd scrap the idea of the R&R setting for now (while it was gorg, you don't "need" that right now), and focus on being happy with your engagement ring. If your DF got it from a smaller jeweler, chances are they will be flexible on you switching out the diamond for a radiant cut. I'd definitely be careful with how you broached the subject with your DF though, because it could come across as a serious wound to his pride.
(on a related note, I just got engaged a week ago, and I was always one to say that I wanted to pick out my ring myself -- I'm incredibly picky about my jewelry and everyone knows it. But my DF decided to surprise me, and he did a great job! But it was so cute, the second words out of his mouth after "will you marry me" were "if you don't like the ring we can take it back and pick out another one.")
 
#14
I guess my opinion is the minority one, but I think you should be totally happy. If that means getting the ring re-designed then so be it. I would hope that your DF would want you to love your E-ring as he will expect that you will want to wear it all the time.

I had my ring completely rebuilt around my centre stone about 9 months after we got engaged and I don't regret it for a minute. I spoke up right away (maybe too quickly) and said that I didn't feel the ring reflected me and my style. We went back to the original jeweller to tweak the design, but she really wasn't receptive to any ideas and just kept telling me that I should live with the style. I felt that because I had a distinctive stone (cushion cut) she thought I should have a "cookie cutter" setting. Eventually it became a real sticking point between us and I stopped wearing my E-ring entirely. Finally a friend of mine took me to her jewellers to get me to stop complaining, I told them 3 simple things and the first design they came up with brought tears to my eyes.

OP, I would really think about the turmoil that you may cause by changing the ring so quickly. Not every man will love the idea of you getting an entirely new ring and many will feel insulted by it. I was fortunate that my DF (now DH) just wanted me to be happy no matter what that meant. The vast majority of the opinions I received was that my ring was beautiful and that I was ungrateful. I was even told that I should just be happy to have received a diamond and to have found a man who was willing to marry such a difficult woman. I would wait and see if your desire for a new setting and stone is a passing fancy or if you really feel that a new ring will reflect "you".

Good luck!
 
#15
onegirlcreative said:
no offense, but i cannot believe you've been engaged for only a few short months and already you want another design? wow. i hope your fiancé doesn't get too disgusted with you. obviously you guys chose this ring design together, and to not even be married yet seems a little superfluous, don't you think?

i can see if you've been married for 10 years and for an anniversary present get another ring or maybe a redesign, but wow.

p.s. you're always going to see a ring that you like better than your own, does that mean you should change it every time? no, of course not. i don't know if i'd risk hurting his feelings for the sake of more bling, but that's me.

good luck with that.
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oof. that's a little nasty tone out of a fellow tpf-er...

"obviously" nothing. i didn't exactly pick my ring out, i've always loved cushions but my DF wanted to surprise me with something he picked. we're not all so lucky to just love someone else's taste on the first try if we're not completely involved. i think most people on this forum try to be happy 100% with what they get because we all love jewelry here. i tried to have it grow on me completely because i love him and he picked it at the end of the day, but it's not 100% me.

also, i don't think DF is ever too disgusted with me as he knows my personality well after 8 years of being together. before you pull another harsh one-liner like it took him that long to propose, we met when i was a teenager.



on another note: talked to DF this weekend and he says i can do whatever i want with my money. he's fine with the R/R ring being a wedding band of sorts and he'll contribute accordingly, but he's not buying a new diamond. i sort of like the antique look or warm goldtones as that's more traditional in my parents' culture. it feels like a mini tribute to them.

i saw some of my mom's friends this weekend who really know their jewelry and got some opinions on what would look good and some jeweler recommendations.

i'll keep the thread updated if i go for it! i'm actually between jobs and i start my new one at the end of this month so we'll see. doing all this research makes me appreciate the guys who learn all their 4 cs for months before they pull the e-ring trigger. i wonder how many of you ladies got completely verse in this crazy diamond world before your DFs and DHs bought the ring?
 
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