A possible wedding disaster...

so....why is she having it in the woods? are her friends really swaying her? maybe take her out for coffee and ask her to describe her dream wedding to you. maybe what she really wants to do will come out.:yes:

I honestly do not know...You make a very good point...Thank you! :yes:

I do need to sit down with her and have a good talk. This doesn't feel right to me. Her friends are young (mid 20's like her) and they are not married. I take it back, I'm sure they are not being mean, but I do feel this is very unrealistic and can be very problematic for her and everyone else. It just seems like too much work and I know she doesn't have the time...especially with the elections coming up.
 
I think it sounds like it could work in theory, maybe in her head you know with the great romantic wedding in mind, but not in reality.

I agree trying to have a coffee and a chat would be a great idea.

Just do be careful of trying to railroad her as you don't want her to think you're pushing her, but rather let her come to the realisation herself by pointing out the facts.

Good luck!!!
 
If she is really set on having it at a remote location, I def agree with the earlier poster who said to tell her she needs to charter a bus to this cabin from a hotel nearby so guests do not have to drive themselves afterward.
 
Another consideration is the vendor charges that will be incurred for travel time. Florist, caterer, photographer etc. She may want to contact a few to see how much extra it will be for them to be at that location.
 
She is about to rent a cabin able to accomodate about 10 people and expects immediate family members to stay in the cabin for at least 3 days (before, during and a bit after the wedding.)


Talk about your basic nightmare!!! Gives me shivers!:weird:
 
I think she should do whatever makes her happy, its her special day. But as a sister I would address your concerns with her so she could take it into account. Maybe you can help her weigh the pros and cons of doing it so far.
 
I do need to sit down with her and have a good talk. .

Bring a mock up wedding invite for her to see that looks like this:

You are invited to a
STEEL CAGE DEATH MATCH
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I think she should do whatever makes her happy, its her special day.

That's true to a point, but how special would it be to be cooped up in the same house with 10 people who might not be too happy to be there or worse yet might not like each other?

I can't imagine anyone wants their wedding day to be remembered as the event that started a family feud.

Frankly, I've never felt a wedding is just about the bride. It's two people bringing two families together.
 
LOL! I love it, Shoo! :roflmfao:

Sadly, that is what I envision...

Prada, I completely agree with you! I feel that even though it is the bride and groom's day, it is a special occasion for the family and friend's as well.

There are so many things to think about, that the wedding being 2+ hours away in the middle of no-where will make everthing harder.

I just do not understand why she doesn't see this...and that is why I started this thread. I was curious to see how people felt attending a wedding like this and it seems like people are hesitant, but may attend if they are really close to her (me, my 2 brothers, mom, etc.)
 
I just do not understand why she doesn't see this...

prepare yourself as well to just let her do her thing. its her wedding afterall and all you can do is gently suggest things but try not to push it too much. it will just add to the stress she's probably already going through. I know you want her to have the perfect wedding but honestly, I don't think there is any such thing! While I loved ours, it still had its stresses and minor problems but we survived and came away with stories to tell!
 
:wtf: Mercy me, as my grandmother used to say. Uh no, I don't think you are overreacting. I quoted this because I just can't wrap my mind around her idea, and I wanted to be able to see it again to try to do so.

Where in the world did this idea originate? Does this cabin hold some special meaning for her? I mean, REALLY special?!

This is a disaster waiting to happen - on so many levels. It's going to be a lot of traveling for *everybody* and not a place they can just fly into and attend the wedding. Then, she will end up having to give elaborate directions to even get everyone *to the wedding. This alone boggles the mind...

The "10 immediate family members in one cabin" is just unimaginable. And, you're saying that it's HIS family AND HERS who will stay in this one cabin for three days?? Even if they were close friends with the other, this would be unthinkable simply because of the logistics of the matter. If they are NOT really close friends, they are going to hate the idea. (Okay, I'll speak for myself - I would hate the idea.)

You asked about people attending a place far off the beaten path, and that will be the biggest question mark of all. I'd say *only her very, very closest friends will make that wedding. The same people who are talking to her into this idea may not even come in the end.

I think you are taking this rather well, actually. You want what is best for your sister and for this to be a special day for her. There are just so many things that come up last minute in planning a wedding in a normal setting, that I hope for all your sakes that she will reconsider. Kudos to you for being a concerned sister. :heart:


Help! I really need your opinion, because I know very little about weddings.

My younger sister is getting married in July 2008 :yahoo:.
BUT, she is having her wedding 2.5 hours away from the city (Minneapolis) in a cabin by a lake, 18 miles from the largest town and about 10+ miles away from a casino. She is about to rent a cabin able to accomodate about 10 people and expects immediate family members to stay in the cabin for at least 3 days (before, during and a bit after the wedding.)

I may be overreacting, but I am worried that people may not come.:sad: She attended college out east after graduating from high school in south Texas. She lived in D.C. and in NJersey after college, so most of the guests invited are from out of town and used to city life.

I have told her to really think about it and even spoke to a couple of wedding planners on her behalf. They said, NO! Too much stress and unnecessary problems may arise. I feel so bad, because I really want her day to be special.

Would you attend a wedding in the midwest, rent a car, drive somewhere in the northwoods of Minnesota for the wedding and after, drive 10-20 miles to stay at a motel or casino?
 
uummm..no. Only if she's my BFF. And I live in MPLS lol. I mean, being from Mn we're all well versed with cabins and up north but if her friends are all from out of town..well. It could be awkward. And 3 days? You'd have to like the outdoors. I'd suggest something a bit closer to the cities...
 
I would only go if I was extremely close or family.
PS. My brother is getting married in Thailand, 3 1/2 hours away from Bangkok on Jan 26th becuase the Thai priest told them they HAD to get married on that day, something about taking her birthday and his birthday and adding them together and then dividing that by the number of blue moons.....I have to go, and not super excited about it, but that's how it goes. it's THEIR wedding and you have to just honor it and make the best of it.
The couple has to realize that a lot of people will just not go. Some couples would propbably like that.