hmm that's good to know the details, thanks everyone!
I refunded her the money, and told her to let me know if she wants it relisted for her friend can buy it so I can send it to her, she hasn't responded about that. She was really upset that she won the purse, and paid for it, and I "refuse" to send it to her. But, I just can't risk underdeclaring it.
I guess she doesn't want to go through the trouble, so I will probably relist it later this month if she never responds back for certain
lesson learned. : sigh :
thank you everyone for all of your help!