I use Bare Escentuals mineral veil, which helps with the oil. Have you tried those rice blotting papers? I know they're made by several companies - you can get them at Ulta or Sephora. They're handy to have in your purse for a quick touch up.
I use M.A.C. Blot Powder/Pressed over my mineral foundation (everyday minerals) and I've been way less oily throughout the day. The mineral foundation is for oily skin, and says it controls oil, so that might be helping as well.
I keep the MAC in my bag with me, in case I need touch ups but never really need to use it.
MAC Blot pressed powder is the best! I'm 44 and still have oily skin. I've tried just about everything over the years. MAC Blot is by far the best. It doesn't get cakey or change color or darken as the day goes on.
thanks i've heard about them and I think I'll give them a try. Also, can I use teh BE mineral veil alone w/out foundation? Can I get it anywhere online?