Hello! Any totem neverfull owners out there who can give me their opinion on wear and tear? Do the straps stay on the shoulder? I have been wanting a tote or hobo bag which I can use when I am out with my 3 kids or at work when I return to work. I have been thinking maybe I should get one without vachetta because I use my hand sanitizer a lot and I don't want to leave marks behind. I also can't constantly be careful because inevitably one of the kids will put his/her shoe close to my bag (before I yell get away from my bag!!) or touch something with a grubby paw. So basically I need something that doesn't require a ton of work but has space for a few pair of mittens, scarves hats or cardigans and snacks. I don't like the look of the de neverfull and it has it's cracking issues. I don't like a slouchy bag like the delightful even tho I love it on others. I don't like the look of the totally even though the totally in de would tick off a lot of boxes. What do you guys think of the neverfull totem? No vachetta!! Right now only the flamingo color is available. Is that too loud? My wardrobe is a lot of solid colors and blacks and greys (and jeans). Thanks for your advice!