About my surgery
Overall - I am a happy girl. I turn out REALLY beautiful (I was good looking before, but mostly average). What I found is that my money was very well worth it. All the suffering, swelling, emotional pain during PS was made up for the fact that I wake up everyday prettier than I am the day before. I also find strangers treat me much nicer (for example, getting further discount in restaurant when I talk to manager, when I stopped check my map on the street people - including ladies - stopped to help me, the waiters of my regular restaurant check on me & my table more often compared to before etc) I have a boyfriend so I dont necessarily enjoy the attention from guys but HEY, it's a bonus.
The sad but not so surprising fact in life is that when you look better, people tend to trust you more, treat you better and more willing to help you. HOWEVER, that's only if that beauty is accompanied with a smile and a positive attitude, so never forget, that you can only be beautiful if you feel beautiful from the inside. People said PS is an artificial act of the low self esteem, I disagree. I think if I have a beautiful personality, having great appearance will enhance the recognition of great personality as people do notice your appearance first thing, then that apperance bring the personality out loud to the world.
After this post I'll copy some of other's day to day detailed experiences, so I wont repeat those. But I'll highlight certain advice:
1. Form a support group before you go to Korea. Find people on PF who goes around the same date, and reach out to them. They'll keep secret as they are doing it too. I cant be thankful enough for meeting the sweetest people who went with me, you guys were the apple of my pie! It will help reduce the emotional roller coaster you go through as the stress is a lot to take.
2. Be mentally prepared: that you might die. That things wont turn out as you expected. That the worst may come. Out of all of us, the four of us who are close are happy with our results. Others, not so much. If you dont set the right expectation, you may get pretty upset. You wont look like SNSD. You will only look like a version of yourself that is beautified (in my case it's a bit extreme because I do many procedures at once) So when you talk to the doctor, bring a pic of yourself that you photoshoped, not a pic of celebrity. Because unhappiness in life and relationship in general, is due to failed expectation.
I was very freak out before the surgery, I think I might die from having so many surgery. But it was once in a lifetime chance to be reborn, I almost cried when the anesthesists tapped on me reallly hard said "your operation was successful". that is the only thing I wanna hear. And I almost cried again a couple of weeks later when I realise I got so pretty to the level I didnt expect. That's the benefit of setting low expectation, you may get a lot of happiness from it.
3. The worst thing about my surgery? THE LIPS! My lips were about the size of her
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RO7ltLmPOVw when I recover and it took almost 5 days to de swell. That disturbed me a lot because It's difficult to eat, I drool (you dont feel anything from your lips) and I cant go out much looking like a freak.
AND WHO SAID PEOPLE WALK OUT WITH BANDAGES IN GANG NAM??? LIE LIE LIE. ITS NOT NORMAL. People stares at us when we go out during the day with head compression. People sometimes walk around with a light face mask, BUT NO BANDAGES. try to walk out at night first, when we go out during day time people stare at us quite badly that we had to go home after a while. You can start going shopping after day 5ish when you deswell and can just wear face mask.
4. Don't forget who you are. This is something I remind myself everyday. that I paid for PS as a tool to achieve my goals, I am its master and never would I let it control my life. You see many deactivated on here or get silent after their surgery because they do not want to get tempted to do more surgery. You can easily loose some of your identity with the idea that you can perfect yourself to that idealistic image. Having someone aside who knows/understand your history to remind you of who you are is good too, for example my bf has been a pretty good point of support to stop me going further fix this fix that.
It's more important to enrich your life experience after PS than do more PS! Watch this >>
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JxhD6HKlHJ4
5. Understand the techniques the doctor is using for your surgery, what they mean, and what impact does it has on you. Out of our group, people goes to various clinics but Ive found out that the one four of us go to has the most advance techniques, therefore we has the shortest recovery time than all the people who went to other clinics. Also ask about scars, recover, migraines etc and possible side effects. YOU MUST UNDERSTAND THE PROCEDURES, sometimes MORE than the doctor to test them if they are honest in answering your questions. since you only have 15 minutes of consultation, take it as gold and fill in any gaps of your understanding. THE DOCTOR IS NOT THERE TO EDUCATE YOU A-Z about the procedures, they wont have enough time to do that and you'll end up being nervous of not sure what you get into.
Finally, may your dream comes true ..and stay beautiful !
