Jade4me, I know, with so many scammers out there, I forget that good business and good deeds can go hand in hand. My husband tells me sometimes that a good business deal is one in which everyone gets something and all are happy. So true!
Red, I can only speak from my experience, and I remember going through the same stage of leaving. That was the really shocking part. yes, pain will take time to heal, but it came in waves with me as I rebuilt my life, one that was MUCH better.
This may sound silly, but it's really anything but, if you can do some yoga or dancing during this time, it would be helpful. The reason why is that this kind of pain is stored in the body as much as in the mind. There is a body bond, a body memory with your ex which also causes pain. This can be transformed and moved through emotional movement.
The body is really a basis of emotional healing. People think it starts from the head, but it really starts from the body. Almost everyone who feels heart ache feels it in their chest and belly rather then head!