ok, well as you all know, i have a sister on the PF too.
about our situation:
My sister and I are very close, yes we do fight but what siblings dont? We are also very close to my parents. For years now we have been listening to our parents stories which isn't good. My parents have a way of putting us in the middle of their relationships, espicially my sister.
My parents are weird, all though I love them they can get frusterating. My dad pours all this information that we don't need to know on our laps. And its not fair cause if we dont take my dads side then we are betraying him. I love my dad till death but it hurts us to listen to his and my moms marrige problems. I know my sister feels the same way.
My dad tells me and my sister all the time he is going to leave my mom to stay with us and he would give us anything in the world that we wanted. Yet, we are the ones taking care of him. He tells us how he HATES my mom (yes, hate) and how she hates us.
But everytime my parents are together with us...they ALWAYS find a way to put my sister and I down both together. With both of their help. Not one of them stick up for us.
Example:
I have a job now, I am not the working type. I guess I am just used of everything being handed down to me. My parents and I have agreed that since I have a job now all I EVER have to pay for is extra money like going out to expensive place and paying for texting. Here I am, paying for my own food, phone, and even clothes. Its not fair, I cry all the time trying to talk to them and when my dad and I are alone he says its wrong, yet hes the one telling my mom its ok to do it. Its like split personalities that he has.
My mom isn't evil. She just...acts like a 16 year old....when I am the one that is 16.
I know what everyone is going to say, try talking to them. Trust me, my sister and I have tried. NOTHING helps. They both ALWAYS think they are right. They think they are getting close to us but in reality they are pulling us away from them. I love my parents, yes I do but it is very hard taking care of myself and my parents at the same time...I am the one that is 16.
Another Example:
My mom and dad told me they would help me pay for my prom. Lets see....they didnt spend one dime on me.
I bought EVERYTHING:
-dress
-nails
-limo
-food
-hair
-shoes
-jewlry
I paid for EVERYTHING.
and if I ever need some extra money, my sister is the one that backs me up. I see her more like a mom then any other woman. Its not fair to put my sister and I through this...
We don't know what to do, who to go to, or where to go.
about our situation:
My sister and I are very close, yes we do fight but what siblings dont? We are also very close to my parents. For years now we have been listening to our parents stories which isn't good. My parents have a way of putting us in the middle of their relationships, espicially my sister.
My parents are weird, all though I love them they can get frusterating. My dad pours all this information that we don't need to know on our laps. And its not fair cause if we dont take my dads side then we are betraying him. I love my dad till death but it hurts us to listen to his and my moms marrige problems. I know my sister feels the same way.
My dad tells me and my sister all the time he is going to leave my mom to stay with us and he would give us anything in the world that we wanted. Yet, we are the ones taking care of him. He tells us how he HATES my mom (yes, hate) and how she hates us.
But everytime my parents are together with us...they ALWAYS find a way to put my sister and I down both together. With both of their help. Not one of them stick up for us.
Example:
I have a job now, I am not the working type. I guess I am just used of everything being handed down to me. My parents and I have agreed that since I have a job now all I EVER have to pay for is extra money like going out to expensive place and paying for texting. Here I am, paying for my own food, phone, and even clothes. Its not fair, I cry all the time trying to talk to them and when my dad and I are alone he says its wrong, yet hes the one telling my mom its ok to do it. Its like split personalities that he has.
My mom isn't evil. She just...acts like a 16 year old....when I am the one that is 16.
I know what everyone is going to say, try talking to them. Trust me, my sister and I have tried. NOTHING helps. They both ALWAYS think they are right. They think they are getting close to us but in reality they are pulling us away from them. I love my parents, yes I do but it is very hard taking care of myself and my parents at the same time...I am the one that is 16.
Another Example:
My mom and dad told me they would help me pay for my prom. Lets see....they didnt spend one dime on me.
I bought EVERYTHING:
-dress
-nails
-limo
-food
-hair
-shoes
-jewlry
I paid for EVERYTHING.
and if I ever need some extra money, my sister is the one that backs me up. I see her more like a mom then any other woman. Its not fair to put my sister and I through this...
We don't know what to do, who to go to, or where to go.