Hi All! I need some advice.
I am helping to throw a baby shower for a friend, along with her sister. A little bit of background:
This is my friend's second child. Her first child is 8 years old, from a prior marriage. This baby shower will be co-ed, including most of her family and the new husband's family. In total, it will be about 70-75 people (she has an exceptionally large family and children will be there as well).
The couple/family are renting a space for the event, at about $175. The food will be a little over $200, plus desserts that I was going to bake/buy. The sister and I were going to buy the decorations (tablecloths, plates, napkins, etc.) and be in charge of planning games.
I also purchased a gift with a cost of about $80.
I guess my question is, in light of what I've spent (thus far about $150), should I be offering to contribute for the rental of the space or the food costs? I am unsure of the etiquette in this situation because it is such a large family party at this point. The sister is not very financially secure and is only contributing a little toward the decor/games, and not purchasing a gift.
And before anyone asks: no, she has not thrown any showers for me, as I am unmarried without children (and I would not ask for such showers in return, as I become very anxious about these types of events where I would be the center of attention). So I really have no basis for comparison. She is a good friend and I don't want to seem rude. I was thinking of just offering another $75-$100 toward the food/space - would that be acceptable?
Thanks in advance!
I am helping to throw a baby shower for a friend, along with her sister. A little bit of background:
This is my friend's second child. Her first child is 8 years old, from a prior marriage. This baby shower will be co-ed, including most of her family and the new husband's family. In total, it will be about 70-75 people (she has an exceptionally large family and children will be there as well).
The couple/family are renting a space for the event, at about $175. The food will be a little over $200, plus desserts that I was going to bake/buy. The sister and I were going to buy the decorations (tablecloths, plates, napkins, etc.) and be in charge of planning games.
I also purchased a gift with a cost of about $80.
I guess my question is, in light of what I've spent (thus far about $150), should I be offering to contribute for the rental of the space or the food costs? I am unsure of the etiquette in this situation because it is such a large family party at this point. The sister is not very financially secure and is only contributing a little toward the decor/games, and not purchasing a gift.
And before anyone asks: no, she has not thrown any showers for me, as I am unmarried without children (and I would not ask for such showers in return, as I become very anxious about these types of events where I would be the center of attention). So I really have no basis for comparison. She is a good friend and I don't want to seem rude. I was thinking of just offering another $75-$100 toward the food/space - would that be acceptable?
Thanks in advance!
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