So my boyfriend and I got back together after being on a break for a few weeks. I was totally about the whole situation and I had to deal with it by surrounding myself with friends who try to keep it off my mind. My boyfriend on the other hand, when it comes to situations like these, he crawls into a little corner to deal with things himself. So for those few weeks he rarely went out, he never partied, but he did talk to one of his friends.
His friend is a lady. Let's call her Cindy. Funny is that I never was jealous of her or anything like that because I know my boyfriend VERY well and she's more like one of the guys to him. But it's also funny that 'Cindy' and I use to be friends as well. But things had changed once my bf and I started having problems.
When we were having our problems she's one of those regurgitate advice givers. The problem was because that I am a very head on business type woman in the music industry and he's someone who has a lot of talent (playing guitar/drums/producing etc and in his band) but he is definitely not business savvy. So he wanted to kind of part ways to really see if i'm his leverage because he didn't want that. After a few weeks he realized what a huge mistake he had made and he came back to me. The problem was very much in his own security. I knew he had to figure things out for himself so I stayed back and waited for him to come back to me. Then she goes and tells him "Maybe she's not the right one for you, if you let her go and she comes back it's meant to be". Things that really don't surface on our problem. So that happened, and i'm okay with that. I mean. He was upset, what is she suppose to do? She's not expected to give good advice, but she chose to open her mouth anyway.
So I let that pass.
A few days ago, I found out that she was basically talking behind my back. What is this girl who's 3 years older than me talking about her friends gf? The thing that puzzles me is that my boyfriend and her don't hang out a lot, they've just been good friend since high school. Last weekend she even asked if all of us wanted to go for lunch, yet she's telling people about our business and how i'm a really bad girlfriend? When in reality (not trying to be self-absorbed) I think I'm doing a pretty damn good job.
It just makes me so frustrated because she knows that if she wanted to hang out with him on her own, I wouldn't be worried nor would I say a thing. Don't be fake and then talk about me as if I'm minuscule to her.
*airrr*
Thanks for letting me rant ladies
His friend is a lady. Let's call her Cindy. Funny is that I never was jealous of her or anything like that because I know my boyfriend VERY well and she's more like one of the guys to him. But it's also funny that 'Cindy' and I use to be friends as well. But things had changed once my bf and I started having problems.
When we were having our problems she's one of those regurgitate advice givers. The problem was because that I am a very head on business type woman in the music industry and he's someone who has a lot of talent (playing guitar/drums/producing etc and in his band) but he is definitely not business savvy. So he wanted to kind of part ways to really see if i'm his leverage because he didn't want that. After a few weeks he realized what a huge mistake he had made and he came back to me. The problem was very much in his own security. I knew he had to figure things out for himself so I stayed back and waited for him to come back to me. Then she goes and tells him "Maybe she's not the right one for you, if you let her go and she comes back it's meant to be". Things that really don't surface on our problem. So that happened, and i'm okay with that. I mean. He was upset, what is she suppose to do? She's not expected to give good advice, but she chose to open her mouth anyway.
So I let that pass.
A few days ago, I found out that she was basically talking behind my back. What is this girl who's 3 years older than me talking about her friends gf? The thing that puzzles me is that my boyfriend and her don't hang out a lot, they've just been good friend since high school. Last weekend she even asked if all of us wanted to go for lunch, yet she's telling people about our business and how i'm a really bad girlfriend? When in reality (not trying to be self-absorbed) I think I'm doing a pretty damn good job.
It just makes me so frustrated because she knows that if she wanted to hang out with him on her own, I wouldn't be worried nor would I say a thing. Don't be fake and then talk about me as if I'm minuscule to her.
*airrr*
Thanks for letting me rant ladies