I recently started a new job that requires working on a team. I found out about the job from a friend of a friend, honestly he is more of an acquaintance only met him once, who happened to be on the selection committee. This acquaintance is on my team at the office. As soon as I started he began emailing my private email address offering me gifts, overnight trips, after work help, and other things that I considered inappropriate and crossing the line. The first time I emailed him back and very clearly refused his offer and told him that I look forward to working with him on a professional level and I was uncomfortable with the content of his emails. I was trying to nip this in the bud immediately. The emails continue and after I do not accept his offers he starts to criticize my work. I can take constructive criticism but even the other team members have considered his comments out of line. It seems like this is his way of retaliating for ignoring his advances.
About a month ago I start receiving emails from his girlfriend accusing me of coming onto her boyfriend, she went through his past emails, I did not even entertain her email because I am trying to keep this professional and figure their relationship problems are not mine. The emails have become so mean and frequent that I had to speak to my team member, he is also a step ahead of me and in some ways a boss. He refuses to do anything about the emails and laugh and says his girlfriend has a temper. Temper or not I do not think I deserve to be in the middle of this. I have done nothing wrong and at this point I am having a hard time sleeping or focusing at work because of all of this background drama.
I wanted to deal with this on my own and sweep this under the rug, but at this point that seems to no longer be an option. I am very much the new kid on the block and he has been with this company for 30+ years and has many allies. I dont particularly mind this job and it is a great opportunity but at this point I am willing to quit because the drama with my colleague and his girlfriend has become too much.
I know, have it in emails he sent me, that he straddles the line when it comes to procedure and frequently breaks company rules. I dont want it to come to this because I always try to do the right thing, but I am considering him telling him that if he doesnt back off I will make this information public. What should I do?
TIA
About a month ago I start receiving emails from his girlfriend accusing me of coming onto her boyfriend, she went through his past emails, I did not even entertain her email because I am trying to keep this professional and figure their relationship problems are not mine. The emails have become so mean and frequent that I had to speak to my team member, he is also a step ahead of me and in some ways a boss. He refuses to do anything about the emails and laugh and says his girlfriend has a temper. Temper or not I do not think I deserve to be in the middle of this. I have done nothing wrong and at this point I am having a hard time sleeping or focusing at work because of all of this background drama.
I wanted to deal with this on my own and sweep this under the rug, but at this point that seems to no longer be an option. I am very much the new kid on the block and he has been with this company for 30+ years and has many allies. I dont particularly mind this job and it is a great opportunity but at this point I am willing to quit because the drama with my colleague and his girlfriend has become too much.
I know, have it in emails he sent me, that he straddles the line when it comes to procedure and frequently breaks company rules. I dont want it to come to this because I always try to do the right thing, but I am considering him telling him that if he doesnt back off I will make this information public. What should I do?
TIA
