I think the OP has been scared off, some of the comments are likely to be quite hurtful to her.....
I have nothing to add, except to say that we had a celebration a few days ago. Rather than buy me a gift as he usually does, DH gave me a cheque (very usual for him but he knows I like to choose what I want rather than be surprised. I have returned H bags if they weren't right). The amount was substantial (more than we are talking about here). When he gave it to me, he said it was mine to do what I wanted with. He said I should cash it, and spend it on anything that made me happy on a trip (or trips) alone, with friends or with him (usually he would go with me, but he knows sometimes I prefer to shop with girlfriends).
My point is, a true gift has no conditions and should make you happy, not guilty or forcing you to sacrifice something you love.
Maybe it's hard to see this now, maybe you will with time, but keep the bag you have now and love, rather than get rid of it with no guarantee of a Birkin at the end....
I have nothing to add, except to say that we had a celebration a few days ago. Rather than buy me a gift as he usually does, DH gave me a cheque (very usual for him but he knows I like to choose what I want rather than be surprised. I have returned H bags if they weren't right). The amount was substantial (more than we are talking about here). When he gave it to me, he said it was mine to do what I wanted with. He said I should cash it, and spend it on anything that made me happy on a trip (or trips) alone, with friends or with him (usually he would go with me, but he knows sometimes I prefer to shop with girlfriends).
My point is, a true gift has no conditions and should make you happy, not guilty or forcing you to sacrifice something you love.
Maybe it's hard to see this now, maybe you will with time, but keep the bag you have now and love, rather than get rid of it with no guarantee of a Birkin at the end....