Oyy, so I have usually 30-45 minutes in between two of my classes today, and it was too cold for me to leave and then come back, so I saw some friends, and put down my ink day and a binder on a chair to go get something, and so one of the girls (sort of friends with), picks up my bag and starts modeling it to another girl, so I turn away to continue my conversation because I thought it was harmless, all she was saying is how nice it is and what great leather it is. Then another great gal walks in, as shes doing this shes says "No its not, its PLEATHER". 
And I look up and try to laugh it off "Nah, its not pleather..." and I didn't want to just yell out that it was a balenciaga, because thats why I love them, it doesn't scream designer. and she goes "pleather pleather pleather!" And I'm starting to feel uncomfortable because the rest of them look at me and I just look at her and say, "I can assure you its not pleather, you know me, I don't spend on clothes, this is how I choose to treat myself". "Its still pleather".
Then the girl who was modeling it then asked "what brand is it?" and I sighed and said quietly that it was a balenciaga. Then she gets standoffish and replies as she sets down the bag abruptly "Um..yeah I never heard of this brand". And I shrug, thinking yeah you probably haven't but what does this have to do with her enjoying the bag a couple of minutes prior? And then she unzips my bag, and I'm looking at another friend of mine like "WTF.. how did I walk into this" and shes just going through my bag, and she sees the tag, and shes looks up at me and then asks "can I look at the tag" and I'm like...okay? Not understanding why shed ask after she goes through my bag. "See..I never heard of this brand so..." and then my friend trying to be a good friend lowers herself by imitating her, and then it just went from there. Usually I stay away from the resident "mean girls", but I needed a quieter place to just finish some stuff on a desk.
So I try to help steer the conversation onwards so it didn't seem like I would leave just because I was so insulted. I never had to deal with this before, but did I handle this wrong? I know they are all lovers of coach, myself included, everything in my bag is some cute coach accessory, and are very mainstream, but I didn't think she would resort to that, just people someone wasn't talking about her wristlet.
I thought I left that catty life as I turned my tassle and shook hands on my diploma.
Have you had similar interactions? How have you dealed? What do you usually say?
(Thanks for letting me vent!)
And I look up and try to laugh it off "Nah, its not pleather..." and I didn't want to just yell out that it was a balenciaga, because thats why I love them, it doesn't scream designer. and she goes "pleather pleather pleather!" And I'm starting to feel uncomfortable because the rest of them look at me and I just look at her and say, "I can assure you its not pleather, you know me, I don't spend on clothes, this is how I choose to treat myself". "Its still pleather".Then the girl who was modeling it then asked "what brand is it?" and I sighed and said quietly that it was a balenciaga. Then she gets standoffish and replies as she sets down the bag abruptly "Um..yeah I never heard of this brand". And I shrug, thinking yeah you probably haven't but what does this have to do with her enjoying the bag a couple of minutes prior? And then she unzips my bag, and I'm looking at another friend of mine like "WTF.. how did I walk into this" and shes just going through my bag, and she sees the tag, and shes looks up at me and then asks "can I look at the tag" and I'm like...okay? Not understanding why shed ask after she goes through my bag. "See..I never heard of this brand so..." and then my friend trying to be a good friend lowers herself by imitating her, and then it just went from there. Usually I stay away from the resident "mean girls", but I needed a quieter place to just finish some stuff on a desk.
So I try to help steer the conversation onwards so it didn't seem like I would leave just because I was so insulted. I never had to deal with this before, but did I handle this wrong? I know they are all lovers of coach, myself included, everything in my bag is some cute coach accessory, and are very mainstream, but I didn't think she would resort to that, just people someone wasn't talking about her wristlet.
I thought I left that catty life as I turned my tassle and shook hands on my diploma.Have you had similar interactions? How have you dealed? What do you usually say?
(Thanks for letting me vent!)
Yes, me too.
