I just don't see any other options.
I am getting married in four months and my fiance has two kids and a dog. The dog pretty much belongs to his daughter, who is 13, and they have had it for three years or so. My cat is 12 years old; I've had her since she was six months old and I love her like she's my child. She is the sweetest cat I've ever had and she and I have been through a lot together, especially over the last couple years. She has no behavioral issues, no litter box problems - nothing. She's in perfect heath and my vet is amazed by her; she can't believe she is 12 years old.
My fiance's dog is a complete PITA. It's not really the dog's fault, as they never took the time to train it. It jumps on everyone who walks in the door. It begs for food. It has food aggression. It doesn't know what "no" means. It barks constantly. It doesn't know how to sit, stay or anything else for that matter. It's an out of control, obnoxious little dog. Oh yeah, and it BITES. It has bit me twice in the last six months. And, we're not talking about play bites either. I'm talking about attack-like growling bites when you try to take something away (like the paper towel it was eating on the dining room floor). Seriously, I hate the dog. When I tell people that, they can't believe it because I am such a huge animal lover and advocate. Me, hate someone's pet? Yup.
There's no way I can bring my cat into their house. We already tried introducing them at my apartment with the dog on a leash and she went right for the cat like she was going to attack. My cat hid under the bed and didn't come out for a day. If I take her with me, she will live the rest of her life scared, hiding under a bed, only to come out to eat and use her litter box. There's no way I could do that to her. And, I'm afraid that the dog would bite her. If the dog hurt her in any way, I really think I'd kill it. Seriously.
My fiance has not gotten involved at this point and I completely understand why. This isn't an issue of dog vs. cat; it's an issue of kids vs. cupcake. He hates the dog and would gladly find another home for it but if he tells the kids that they have to get rid of the dog, they will be devastated and resent us both (but, mostly me). He can't win. He keeps telling me that it will be okay and that they will lean to live with each other but I just don't see it and I think it would be incredibly cruel to bring her into this house with that angry and aggressive little dog. I love her too much to make her suffer the rest of her life.
My exhusband has already agreed to take my cat. If she can't be with me, he is the person I'd most like her to be with. He loved her as much as I did and I know that she'd be most comfortable with him. I trust him with her and I know that he will take very good care of her.
Am I doing the right thing? Every time I think about it, I cry. The thought of giving her up breaks my heart into a million pieces but I feel like this is the best thing for HER. I just can't believe I have to give her up.
I am getting married in four months and my fiance has two kids and a dog. The dog pretty much belongs to his daughter, who is 13, and they have had it for three years or so. My cat is 12 years old; I've had her since she was six months old and I love her like she's my child. She is the sweetest cat I've ever had and she and I have been through a lot together, especially over the last couple years. She has no behavioral issues, no litter box problems - nothing. She's in perfect heath and my vet is amazed by her; she can't believe she is 12 years old.
My fiance's dog is a complete PITA. It's not really the dog's fault, as they never took the time to train it. It jumps on everyone who walks in the door. It begs for food. It has food aggression. It doesn't know what "no" means. It barks constantly. It doesn't know how to sit, stay or anything else for that matter. It's an out of control, obnoxious little dog. Oh yeah, and it BITES. It has bit me twice in the last six months. And, we're not talking about play bites either. I'm talking about attack-like growling bites when you try to take something away (like the paper towel it was eating on the dining room floor). Seriously, I hate the dog. When I tell people that, they can't believe it because I am such a huge animal lover and advocate. Me, hate someone's pet? Yup.
There's no way I can bring my cat into their house. We already tried introducing them at my apartment with the dog on a leash and she went right for the cat like she was going to attack. My cat hid under the bed and didn't come out for a day. If I take her with me, she will live the rest of her life scared, hiding under a bed, only to come out to eat and use her litter box. There's no way I could do that to her. And, I'm afraid that the dog would bite her. If the dog hurt her in any way, I really think I'd kill it. Seriously.
My fiance has not gotten involved at this point and I completely understand why. This isn't an issue of dog vs. cat; it's an issue of kids vs. cupcake. He hates the dog and would gladly find another home for it but if he tells the kids that they have to get rid of the dog, they will be devastated and resent us both (but, mostly me). He can't win. He keeps telling me that it will be okay and that they will lean to live with each other but I just don't see it and I think it would be incredibly cruel to bring her into this house with that angry and aggressive little dog. I love her too much to make her suffer the rest of her life.
My exhusband has already agreed to take my cat. If she can't be with me, he is the person I'd most like her to be with. He loved her as much as I did and I know that she'd be most comfortable with him. I trust him with her and I know that he will take very good care of her.
Am I doing the right thing? Every time I think about it, I cry. The thought of giving her up breaks my heart into a million pieces but I feel like this is the best thing for HER. I just can't believe I have to give her up.