Amber needs help that just a handful of pills isn't going to help. I am heartbroken that she dropped out of school. ...Her fiance is a mess. He seems even less prepared to be a parent than she is. But at least it seems like she is trying...
I'm guessing you meant "he" is trying.
He is less of a mess than any of the rest of them. And try is all any of us can do, in any situation.
I think I sympathize with him especially because we saw that process on the show, when he bought the video game, and you could just watch his plump little face, not so much when Amber and I think one of the grownups talked to him about it, but later, he just sat there and grew up several years in a matter of seconds, and took the game back.
From that moment, he seemed like a different boy. He might not have done everything Amber wanted him to do. He may be a slob. He may be lazy, though not as lazy as Amber makes him sound!
At worst, he is a lazy slob** who loves his little family and works to provide for them, and that is valid mighty fine man potential.
I wish I could be more optimistic about the long-term chances of his little family in its current form, though. I have a feeling that his mom may end up taking over much of the care-giving duties during the time he is at work.
I wasn't a teen mom, but I fail to understand why young, single women (and a lot of women, for that matter) introduce their kids to every man that more or less waves "hello" to them. Unless you're serious with a man, why do you have to expose your child to him? It's just another step in a cycle of destructive behavior, IMO.
I agree, and in fairness to Farrah, she did try to suggest that, as best she is able, to her mother.
That is why I found that whole segment - and her mother - so objectionable!
This was just some dude she was going for ice cream with, NOT a serious relationship, not any kind of relationship, and it was completely inappropriate for him to be brought into her home and introduced to her mother, much less the baby!
And sure enough, Farrah finds out almost immediately that he is a dud.
I have a nasty little suspicion that Farrah's mother may have intended all that with the objective of manipulating Farrah into not going for ice cream at all, and if she does this time, never doing it again, and Farrah, because she has lived in that dysfunction all her life, and is still a child herself, simply does not have the maturity and skills to smilenodnodsmile at what her mother says, go have her ice cream, and tell her mother something that will please her, or at the very least, not be disturbing to her or engage or exercise her in any way.
Her mother should not know anything she does or thinks, now or ever. And as soon as Farrah can get out of there, her mother does not need to know her address or phone number.
Not everyone is cut out for parenthood. Unfortunately, many of them have children anyway.
This time, the boy was just a dud, but - hmm.
Let me just say that these days, there are many people with whom might one go and eat ice cream in a public place, that it is not only for reasons of social propriety that one should get to know them a little better before considering whether to bring them into one's home, and share with them the exact location of one's elders and children.
I think that controlling Farrah is so important to her mother that such a thing would never occur to her.
We can all hope that she will choose to get help. But in the meantime, it is up to Farrah to get herself and her child into a less hazardous environment.
**Full disclosure: I'm a lazy slob, and on behalf of the proud lazy slob community, I'd like to point out that some of us make good parents, and some of us don't, but our lazy slobhood has nothing to do with that one way or the other. Hey, we get stuff done. We take care of our responsibilities. We just keep them in sort of piles here and there while we take care of them.