I'm never one to complain about others, but I think I could use some advice on this one.
I recently moved in into a house with a bunch of roommates I didn't know previously (Just started grad school). I love buying things online and just ship back whatever I don't want...which means, the delivery guy is constantly coming to our house. Every time I get something, one of my roommates always asks, "what did you get this time??" in an exasperated/sarcastic way. I work a campus job, and I always budget how much time i'll need to pay off everything. I'm even willing to take on additional jobs just to pay off the things I love/need. That also means I'm living barely by my means. When he first started doing this, I tried explaining to him this, and that I'm actually broke, but there are certain things I need and have to get. From then on, every time I came in with a package, he would not only ask what I got this time, but also "I thought you were broke, what are you doing" in a you're-a-dumbass kind of way. When I try to explain that it's something I needed - i.e. a suit - and that I really am broke because of it, he's like "No you're not. please." ush:
I hate the fact that I'm now dreading the arrival of things that i LOVE and am super excited for and saved up for! Every time, I feel like I have to defend my purchases and why they were necessary. When I step back from the situation, I'm like, why am I defending my choices to my roommate??! My SO says I should say something to him, but I feel like after I've explained so many times, shouldn't it be clear? I don't want to be mean, i.e. "mind your own business!" especially to someone I live with and see every day. Do you guys have any advice? Any ideas would help a lot.
I recently moved in into a house with a bunch of roommates I didn't know previously (Just started grad school). I love buying things online and just ship back whatever I don't want...which means, the delivery guy is constantly coming to our house. Every time I get something, one of my roommates always asks, "what did you get this time??" in an exasperated/sarcastic way. I work a campus job, and I always budget how much time i'll need to pay off everything. I'm even willing to take on additional jobs just to pay off the things I love/need. That also means I'm living barely by my means. When he first started doing this, I tried explaining to him this, and that I'm actually broke, but there are certain things I need and have to get. From then on, every time I came in with a package, he would not only ask what I got this time, but also "I thought you were broke, what are you doing" in a you're-a-dumbass kind of way. When I try to explain that it's something I needed - i.e. a suit - and that I really am broke because of it, he's like "No you're not. please." ush:
I hate the fact that I'm now dreading the arrival of things that i LOVE and am super excited for and saved up for! Every time, I feel like I have to defend my purchases and why they were necessary. When I step back from the situation, I'm like, why am I defending my choices to my roommate??! My SO says I should say something to him, but I feel like after I've explained so many times, shouldn't it be clear? I don't want to be mean, i.e. "mind your own business!" especially to someone I live with and see every day. Do you guys have any advice? Any ideas would help a lot.