Is it just me or has anyone else kind of discovered a new self through handbag/purse culture?
Recently, I got into handbags. I am currently slipping into a mild obsession. In shallow terms, bags are pretty. Being surrounded by pretty things, and carrying pretty things makes me happy. But I'm going to get deep for a minute here.
My whole life I have really struggled with self-confidence, self-esteem, having a strong identity through my style, femininity, and expressing myself. My whole life has been a constant lesson and reminder that pretty gets you far (it's not all that matters but it is tied to a lot of a woman's existence whether I like it or not). I was never that girl and I will never be that girl even if I get all the surgeries, if I can't be her naturally then I don't want it. But for my friends and other beautiful women around me, confidence, self-esteem/worth, and femininity were so innate to them - because they're obviously gorgeous.
For a woman like me, beauty is not something I could ever rely on or lean into. Now, let me be real with you, I have come to terms with how I look enough to be objective with my looks. I am grateful enough to admit I do not have any major issues with my looks, but my kind was rejected and outcast for most of my life. If I wanted to have value in the world, I had to lean into different areas, i.e. academics, and motor skills, along with life experiences that equipped me with insights into how to navigate the world for women like me. I worked on myself as a person and as an energy, and I honed in on making my contribution to people meaningful.
I hated that femininity was foreign to me because I felt so rejected by it and others. As if I wasn't welcome or allowed. But somehow, I found my entry point through handbags. They seem to inspire more feminine movements in my body expression and in my clothes. I started wanting to accessorize my bag and get cute girly things to match my bag. I always dress according to how I feel in my outfit. On super unconfident days, I looked like absolute trash, and the only thing that saved the fit was the bag. I don't know, I guess I have had kind of a metamorphosis through my love for handbags. Can anyone else relate? If any one is open to connecting, please share your stories with me!
I want to talk to y'all about everything under the sun when it comes to bags, accessories, your in-store experience, and your travel shopping experience (send pics!). I want to learn about what these bags do for you, how they boost your confidence, how they help you hit your style goals, and what the bag symbolizes for you!
Let's connect over our love handbags!