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kroquet · Jun 14th, 2009, 05:08 PM

^^That's probably a good idea and I really do sympathize with the parents.

That said, when my kids were little, I was always checking them, looking in the rearview mirror. I do the same with my dog. Once a Mom, always a Mom. I just can't fathom that your mind can be that pre-occupied to forget.

cutiepie21 · Jun 14th, 2009, 05:26 PM

An alternative to an alarm system would be to attach a leash to the car seat that secures around the parents' wrist. It might get annoying while driving, but the parent won't forget the kid is there if they're attached to the car seat.

pollinilove · Jun 14th, 2009, 05:45 PM

how in the world do you forget you have a kid in your car

pollinilove · Jun 14th, 2009, 05:46 PM

i alwasy talk to my kids even when they were babies

Originally Posted by kroquet

^^That's probably a good idea and I really do sympathize with the parents.

That said, when my kids were little, I was always checking them, looking in the rearview mirror. I do the same with my dog. Once a Mom, always a Mom. I just can't fathom that your mind can be that pre-occupied to forget.

fashion16 · Jun 14th, 2009, 05:54 PM

That story is heartbreaking. Any punishment granted by a judge is only a fraction of the heartache and pain that the parent will feel forever. I can't even imagine.

HauteMama · Jun 14th, 2009, 06:16 PM

I totally agree that with carseat alarms there would be ridiculous lawsuits that totally removed responsibility from where it belongs - on the parent. These cases just infuriate me. You can bet these people would never forget their bag or their work presentation in the car. I do NOT agree that this can happen to anyone; it DOESN'T happen to the majority of people because their children are their priorities.

Negligent homicide still results in death, and I think these parents need to face prosecution for what they have done. Community service, perhaps, instead of incarceration, but they need to face the criminal justice system in some way. If a daycare driver forgets a child in a vehicle and it results in death or injury they can be charged; why not the parent? Are we treating the children as property, so when the daycare driver does it it is loss of property but when the parent does it there are no charges to be faced because "no one else" was affected (as the child, obviously, doesn't count)?

me_love_purse · Jun 14th, 2009, 06:33 PM

Originally Posted by Roo

I actually got a little angry when I read the article, bella. The reason is that if there are alarms placed on car seats and they don't work right, then the parent gets to sue the alarm company for negligence if their child dies. It totally removes the responsibility for remembering your child is in the car from the parent.

I agree with Roo. When one decides to have a child, it is his/her responsibility to care for the child. It is not the responsibility of the car maker or seat maker or somebody else's.

dallas · Jun 14th, 2009, 06:37 PM

Quote:

"The whole time I'm at work, I'm thinking she's OK, and she's safe, and she's at Discoveryland," Wesley says. "I know that sounds crazy."

Now that, I don't believe. What a load of rubbish.

sweetdreamer16 · Jun 14th, 2009, 06:39 PM

you always hear stories like this!! how sad! and you always wonder why it happened to that one parent and not the hundreds of thousands of parents who do have babies and do not forget about them in cars

glamgirl84 · Jun 14th, 2009, 08:50 PM

Originally Posted by kroquet

That said, when my kids were little, I was always checking them, looking in the rearview mirror. I do the same with my dog. Once a Mom, always a Mom.

I don't have kids but I DO have a dog and you're so right- when he's in the car, even in the back, he's on my mind. Sad.

Vegas Long Legs · Jun 14th, 2009, 09:05 PM

Originally Posted by me_love_purse

I agree with Roo. When one decides to have a child, it is his/her responsibility to care for the child. It is not the responsibility of the car maker or seat maker or somebody else's.

Amen!

Irishgal · Jun 14th, 2009, 09:18 PM

Originally Posted by Roo

I actually got a little angry when I read the article, bella. The reason is that if there are alarms placed on car seats and they don't work right, then the parent gets to sue the alarm company for negligence if their child dies. It totally removes the responsibility for remembering your child is in the car from the parent.

Totally agree.

Pursegrrl · Jun 14th, 2009, 09:30 PM

Originally Posted by Roo

I actually got a little angry when I read the article, bella. The reason is that if there are alarms placed on car seats and they don't work right, then the parent gets to sue the alarm company for negligence if their child dies. It totally removes the responsibility for remembering your child is in the car from the parent.

Precisely.

DamierLover · Jun 14th, 2009, 09:35 PM

While I've been a parent for 30 years now...I thankfully haven't had the horrid misfortune that these parents have or anything close for that matter. I do have empathy for them though. Until you've walked a mile in somebody's shoes you don't know what their world is really like. They have to live for the rest of their lives without their child. If they believe that alarms on infant seats will prevent just one
person from having to share their agony, then their ideas should not be dismissed as
foolish.

Green Zebra · Jun 14th, 2009, 09:42 PM

very sad....

of course (!) the mother didn't "mean" to cause her child to die....

is she reckless or foolish or immature?? I don't know... All I know is a sweet baby is not living...and all i can say it is very sad...

Jun 14th, 2009, 05:08 PM	#16
kroquet Menopausal M. O. B. Joined: Sep 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 9,208	^^That's probably a good idea and I really do sympathize with the parents. That said, when my kids were little, I was always checking them, looking in the rearview mirror. I do the same with my dog. Once a Mom, always a Mom. I just can't fathom that your mind can be that pre-occupied to forget.
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Jun 14th, 2009, 05:26 PM	#17
cutiepie21 Member Joined: May 2006 Posts: 2,173	An alternative to an alarm system would be to attach a leash to the car seat that secures around the parents' wrist. It might get annoying while driving, but the parent won't forget the kid is there if they're attached to the car seat.
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Jun 14th, 2009, 05:54 PM	#20
fashion16 Member Joined: Apr 2007 Posts: 1,990	That story is heartbreaking. Any punishment granted by a judge is only a fraction of the heartache and pain that the parent will feel forever. I can't even imagine.
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Jun 14th, 2009, 06:16 PM	#21
HauteMama Member Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,759	I totally agree that with carseat alarms there would be ridiculous lawsuits that totally removed responsibility from where it belongs - on the parent. These cases just infuriate me. You can bet these people would never forget their bag or their work presentation in the car. I do NOT agree that this can happen to anyone; it DOESN'T happen to the majority of people because their children are their priorities. Negligent homicide still results in death, and I think these parents need to face prosecution for what they have done. Community service, perhaps, instead of incarceration, but they need to face the criminal justice system in some way. If a daycare driver forgets a child in a vehicle and it results in death or injury they can be charged; why not the parent? Are we treating the children as property, so when the daycare driver does it it is loss of property but when the parent does it there are no charges to be faced because "no one else" was affected (as the child, obviously, doesn't count)?
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Jun 14th, 2009, 06:39 PM	#24
sweetdreamer16 Member Joined: May 2008 Location: Vancouver Posts: 2,035	you always hear stories like this!! how sad! and you always wonder why it happened to that one parent and not the hundreds of thousands of parents who do have babies and do not forget about them in cars
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Jun 14th, 2009, 05:45 PM	#18
pollinilove Member Joined: Mar 2007 Location: norfolk va/elizabeth city nc Posts: 2,335	how in the world do you forget you have a kid in your car

Jun 14th, 2009, 09:35 PM	#29
DamierLover Member Joined: Aug 2006 Posts: 3,610	While I've been a parent for 30 years now...I thankfully haven't had the horrid misfortune that these parents have or anything close for that matter. I do have empathy for them though. Until you've walked a mile in somebody's shoes you don't know what their world is really like. They have to live for the rest of their lives without their child. If they believe that alarms on infant seats will prevent just one person from having to share their agony, then their ideas should not be dismissed as foolish.
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Jun 14th, 2009, 09:42 PM	#30
Green Zebra Party animal! Joined: Oct 2008 Location: Second City Posts: 894	very sad.... of course (!) the mother didn't "mean" to cause her child to die.... is she reckless or foolish or immature?? I don't know... All I know is a sweet baby is not living...and all i can say it is very sad...

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